Emotions Compound!
Its true, when we feel grief, we feel ALL the losses we’ve had.
When we are betrayed we feel ALL of our betrayals. It is so important to have clear communication with your partner and not let things build up.
Whomever you are dealing with in the moment is NOT responsible for ALL the betrayals, ALL the times you’ve been angry about ______________.
You see your subconscious mind stores similar experiences in the same way. So when you feel grief or anger your subconscious brings up the same program from the past about grief or anger.
Your subconscious not only controls those emotional reactions, it also controls approximately 88-90% of all of your behavior. Not just the habitual things like how you drive a car or how you brush your teeth. It also controls any behavior that you don’t make a conscious choice about. That includes your emotions (when was the last time you CHOSE to get angry).
Have you ever said to someone, “You sound just like my mother when you say that!” Well, guess what that person isn’t your mother and isn’t trying to treat you like your mother, they are just communicating the way they know how.
YOU are the one who is seeing the similarity in the experience and therefore the issue is yours not your partners (You can watch our video below about how to communicate to your partner when that happens).
So, remember to communicate your emotions as you feel them. And that way you can avoid the big blowups and develop real lasting intimacy with your partner.
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