You’ve likely heard the saying, “Men marry their mother, and girls marry their father.” This is just too simplistic when considering how complex human beings are. The reality is that your caregivers and your entire family of origin play a role in Your Love Imprint® and how you are hard-wired for love.
Whether you ever had a stable family unit or not, whether you were raised by one parent or both, you learned about intimate relationships from the people that raised you.
So, if you want to spend the rest of your life with your soulmate (a person that you can count on to stand by you) you’ll need to know what drives your choices in love.
If you’ve done the work of
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Topic: Heal Your Heart
How To Let Go Of Someone Who Hurt You & Move On With Your Life
Heartbreak sucks. Especially when the person you loved treated you badly on the way out. You want to move on. You want to know how to let go of someone who hurt you. But you feel stuck and you’re in pain.
Letting go of someone who hurt you takes time and doesn’t happen overnight. But if you take a conscious approach to letting go and moving on from a painful situation, you can heal your heart and create greater love than the one you lost. The silver lining is you’ll be more resilient from heartbreak through the process.
Your heart feels shattered because someone you love has betrayed your trust. Your head is spinning, constantly asking, “Why? Why would someone you
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Do Men Want What They Can’t Have?
This week's question comes from Paula:
“Hi Orna and Matthew,
Do men want what they can’t have?
Here's my pattern… every single time I allow myself to TRULY love a man and trust/become vulnerable/believe he loves me back – he leaves!
All different types of men, wildly variable circumstances and timelines, but each time I chose to love – they leave. Of course, the ones I don't care about I can't get rid of.
I just want to know, do men only want what they can't have?!?
Help!”
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Hello Paula,
The journey to lasting love can be filled with frustration, we truly feel your pain. Especially when you’re looking for Mr. Right and all you find are Mr. I
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Why Do I Keep Dreaming About My Ex?
This week's question comes from Nina:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I keep dreaming about my ex and it has me really confused.
I broke up with him over 5 years ago because he was verbally abusive and definitely a narcissist. When I first met him though, I was really attracted to him and I thought he might be The One. It wasn’t until later when I saw who he really was that I got out. It took me a long time to get over that relationship
I’m currently dating a really great guy. In fact, we’re talking about moving in together. He is the opposite of my ex – kind, thoughtful, supportive. He’s a really great guy and I’m so glad we’re together.
The problem is… I keep
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Why Do I Attract Narcissists & Selfish Guys? How Can I Change This?
Do you have a pattern of toxic relationships? You meet a guy who is so amazing at the start – charismatic, charming, and so into you. But as soon as you get hooked, he starts becoming controlling and critical. Do you ever ask yourself, “Why do I attract narcissists and selfish guys? What can I do to finally break this pattern?”
The first step is to understand why you are attracting narcissists in the first place. Then you can begin to change your strategies for finding love.
While your pattern of attracting narcissists may leave you feeling hopeless about your prospects for lasting love, the truth is you can break this pattern by developing new dating strategies to
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How Can A Negative Attitude Block Me From Finding True Love?
This week's question comes from Mathilda:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I’ve got such a negative attitude about love and relationships these days. I can’t seem to believe that love is in the cards for me and then when I go online I just see a bunch of fake profiles or guys I would never date. I’m sure that people are constantly being scammed on dating sites.
Is there any hope for someone like me? I can’t seem to get over my negative attitude."
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Dear Mathilda,
Thank you for reaching out to us, it’s clear that you are looking for some guidance that will help you feel better. To answer your question, yes it will be more difficult to create lasting love when you
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