This week's question comes from Maggie:
“Hello Orna and Matthew,
I worry that I am destined to be alone. It’s been so long since I’ve had a relationship that I often think I’m going to be alone for the rest of my life. I have been told by some very good psychics that I made a life contract that is solid, and I am not to have a love partner this lifetime. The only glimmer of hope and the reason for this email is that a few of the psychics said there is someone waiting for me. If that is true, then I want to meet him.
Over the years I have tried to change this contract as some psychics have said it’s possible to do so. I meditate and believe in a higher power and
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Overcome Self Sabotage
How To Be More Confident So When You’re Ready To Date, You Have A Better Shot At Finding Love
It can feel daunting to start dating again after taking a break. You don’t know how the rules have changed or what they were to begin with. You might feel intimidated by new technologies. Ultimately, you just want to know how to be more confident when you’re ready to date so that you can show up fully and not afraid of rejection.
The fear of rejection is the biggest concern that stops you from taking action and risking your heart. Love is always a risk, even in the healthiest of relationships. Being open and vulnerable to another person is a gamble, but if you want to be loved for who you really are you have to show up as who you really are.
Having healthy
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25 Limiting Beliefs That Interfere With Finding True Love (Plus How To Turn Them Around)
Dating is hard. Love doesn’t last. True love is just a fantasy. Whatever your limiting beliefs about love and relationship are, they are interfering in your search for lasting love.
Your limiting beliefs get in the way of you staying positive and motivated about love and dating. They cause you to take self-sabotaging actions and to work against yourself. Ultimately, they leave you feeling hopeless and frustrated about the possibility of ever finding “The One.”
The truth about love is that it is always available to you. Love can be easy while at the same time requiring effort to make it last. Creating lasting love with your soulmate can be one of the most satisfying
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Self-Care Is NOT Always Sexy…
With news of the Coronavirus spreading around the world, self-quarantines and social distancing becoming the norm for the next several weeks now is a great time to dedicate time to self-care and to keeping your heart open.
Fear can spread faster than any virus. Take these steps to nurture self-love and self-care and you’ll find it is easier to access love and faith when everything around you seems to be falling apart.
To emotionally survive times of fear and chaos, think of yourself as a spiritual warrior bringing love to the world around you (even if you are home alone). Take commonsense actions to protect yourself, your health, and keep a positive attitude. Place
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Feeling Frustrated With Being Single? Here Are 5 Tips To Shift Your Thoughts And Your Mood
This week's question comes from Vivian:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I’m feeling so frustrated with being single and super melancholy these days. I love my life, I love my independence, I have great friends and family… what I don’t have is my Beloved.
As I look around it seems everyone is partnered up. My friends and co-workers are all with their special someone. This time last year I vowed I would find that special guy this year and now I find myself coming to grips that is not very likely as I start another year in my life.
What to do when I’m feeling blue? I’d love to get back into the groove in my life.
I sure hope you pick my question to answer because I’m
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How To Feel Good About Yourself And Leave The Past In The Past
It happens to everyone, sometimes in life you just feel stuck. Nothing seems to work and it all feels like it’s your fault or like the world is conspiring against you. It’s like you’re stuck at red light, after red light, after red light. You just wish you knew how to feel good about yourself and your life so you can finally leave the past in the past.
Feelings of helplessness and hopelessness can show up any time in your life, but they can be commonplace during a break-up. The problem is, it can be difficult to take action when you feel this way. You end up telling yourself that you’ll do what you need to do when you feel better.
Unfortunately you won’t magically
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