This week's question comes from Nina:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I keep dreaming about my ex and it has me really confused.
I broke up with him over 5 years ago because he was verbally abusive and definitely a narcissist. When I first met him though, I was really attracted to him and I thought he might be The One. It wasn’t until later when I saw who he really was that I got out. It took me a long time to get over that relationship
I’m currently dating a really great guy. In fact, we’re talking about moving in together. He is the opposite of my ex – kind, thoughtful, supportive. He’s a really great guy and I’m so glad we’re together.
The problem is… I keep
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What Are His Intentions? 9 Soulmate Signs You Should Look For In A Man
This week's question comes from Laura:
“Hello Orna & Matthew,
What soulmate signs should I be looking for? I met a man online a few months ago and I’m confused about what he wants. I wonder what are his intentions for me? How do I even ask about his intentions?
We met on a dating site and he’s an attorney who lives in Michigan, while I live in Indiana.
We exchanged pictures and talked for a few weeks. I felt we had a strong connection and I really thought he could be my soulmate. He talked about driving to meet me, but to make a long story short, it never happened. I didn’t hear from him again until December last year.
He says he wishes he had made the
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How Can A Negative Attitude Block Me From Finding True Love?
This week's question comes from Mathilda:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I’ve got such a negative attitude about love and relationships these days. I can’t seem to believe that love is in the cards for me and then when I go online I just see a bunch of fake profiles or guys I would never date. I’m sure that people are constantly being scammed on dating sites.
Is there any hope for someone like me? I can’t seem to get over my negative attitude."
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Dear Mathilda,
Thank you for reaching out to us, it’s clear that you are looking for some guidance that will help you feel better. To answer your question, yes it will be more difficult to create lasting love when you
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Why Do I Attract Married Men? Is There A Way To Repel Them So They Stop Wasting My Time?
This week’s question comes from Patricia:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I hope you can help me break this pattern I seem stuck in. Why do I attract married men? There must be a way to repel them, so they stop wasting my time.
I must confess, when I was younger, I was the other woman in a few relationships, and I feel terrible about it. So, I swore off married men and promised myself that I wouldn’t be part of that kind of situation ever again. I truly want to be in a real relationship.
Six months ago, I met a great guy and we hit it off right away. I had such a strong attraction to him and I thought I’d finally found The One. Then I discovered that he’s married. Of
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11 Reasons Why Dating Coaches Believe You’re Self-Sabotaging Your Chances At Love (Plus How To Fix It Now)
Do you notice that your relationships start out with a great connection, but then fall apart before there is exclusivity? Are you always finding fault with the people you date, deselecting them for superficial reasons, and not letting anyone get too close to you? These could be signs that you’re self-sabotaging your chances for love.
Understanding why this keeps happening and what to do about it are the keys to breaking the pattern of self-sabotaging relationships and creating the long-lasting love you desire.
Self-sabotage is a tricky issue because ultimately it is you that is causing the relationship to fall apart, even when it seems like the problem is the other
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Attracted to Emotionally Unavailable Men?
This week's question comes from Laura:
“Hi Orna and Matthew,
I am so glad I found you. It’s no doubt the universe pointed me in your direction just as I really need you!
I have been addicted to emotionally unavailable men for 20 years and in the past few years, have pulled myself away – like an alcoholic coming off liquor. But the feelings are still there – like the alcoholic smelling alcohol and being consumed by the longing for it! My current situation involves a male friend, with whom I’ve got close to (as friends) quickly over the last few months. He’s in a difficult emotional situation himself and in a relationship that he does not have much time for (but is
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