This week's question comes from Marybeth:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I have been reading your weekly love notes for years. There so much great information you two share. I love getting both a male and female perspective. Today I’m reaching out because despite the fact that I’ve done a lot of personal growth work on myself I can’t seem to settle in with a nice guy.
Everything starts off great, there’s chemistry, and I enjoy the getting to know each other part of the relationship, but then things get very boring for me. I get restless. I start thinking about my exes…. not that I want any of that drama back in my life.
My mind wanders… I start to wonder if there is
Read More
Dating in the workplace
This week's question comes from Jill:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I would love your insights on my situation. At work I’m the boss. I manage a fairly large team and there is a guy I find attractive who works for the company, but does not report directly to me.
He seems interested in me, and even though I wouldn’t describe him as shy he hasn’t yet made a move. I know he’s single. I’ve read and studied about masculine/feminine dynamics and I am really clear that I want a man to lead in a relationship.
How do I do something (if anything) to see if there is something there for me with my co-worker?
Hoping for a connection."
---
Hi Jill,
Thank you for
Read More
How do I find a relationship ready man?
This week's question comes from Jocelyn:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I always seem to meet men who I date for a couple of months then unexpectedly break up with me. I never find a connection with these men. They seemed to be interested… then they disappear. I am never able to form a bond with them. They don’t give it a chance.
What am I doing wrong?"
---
Hi Jocelyn,
Thanks for your question. What’s interesting about what you shared with us is that you don’t seem very interested in these men that you’ve been dating. If you’re not forming a bond with them, then they are doing you a favor by ending it.
You did not share a whole lot with us, so it’s difficult
Read More
Do Smart Women Suffer More In Love?
This week's question comes from Rachel:
"Hi O&M,
I love your emails and work; I have been on your list for years. I enjoy watching you two interact with one another. I know I’m a smart woman, perhaps too smart for my own good.
I find I’m always questioning my choices in men. I’m constantly wondering if he is the right guy for me or not. So what happens is that I get overly critical and nitpicky looking for mistakes. And yet I know deep down that I don’t want to settle for just okay. I want the real deal.
I really hate that I get so judgey with the men I’m dating and I can’t seem to break the pattern!
I like that I have a brain and yet I feel like my
Read More
Can I stay single and be happy?
This week's question comes from Iris:
“Hi Orna and Matthew,
I know that you two are soulmate coaches and that you probably don’t agree with me but I have to ask anyway. Can’t I just stay single and be happy with my life?
I’m so tired of yearning for a man to fix my life. I’m so tired of all the angst and drama of a relationship. None of my relationships have ever worked out and quite frankly I’m sick of dating.
I want to be happy single! I want to be happy without the worry that I’ve chosen wrong again.
Please help!”
---
Dear Iris,
Thanks for reaching out to us and asking anyway. We think this is a great question!
We actually agree with you.
Read More
Does being a perfectionist keep me from love?
This week's question comes from Danielle:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
You two are the cutest couple and I wait every Monday to read your newsletter. You have best dating advice for women. So here’s my question…
I’m a pretty A-Type personality kind of woman. I know this about myself. I love my career, my kids are mostly grown and don’t need me as much.
I have no trouble getting dates, that’s not an issue. I get asked out all the time, I know how to flirt; I’ve learned to let the man lead – not something I’m completely comfortable with yet.
The problem for me is that once I’m in a relationship it doesn’t last past 6-8 months. I know I have high standards for
Read More