This week’s question comes from Tameka:
“Hi Orna and Matthew,
My sister-in-law keeps telling me to stop settling but I don’t think I am. I would love your advice.
My “friend” is a former coworker that I have an amazing bond with. He’s a recent divorcee. His hitch is that his wife cheated on him, so in his own words, he’s a bit “dead on the inside” right now, but we have a great time together. I told him that I had feelings for him, and he said he just needed more time to get past the one-year mark. The confusing part of the situation is that he doesn’t let me pay for anything. Doesn’t that make it a date? (I personally refer to it as hangouts.) We hang out a few
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How To Date After Divorce (Even If You’d Just Rather Give Up)
Dating after divorce can be an overwhelming experience, especially if you were married for a long time. You may go on a few bad dates and think that it might be easier to just give up and stay single. Don’t despair! Instead, discover how to date after divorce so that you actually find love again.
If you’ve taken time to heal your heart and you feel ready to put yourself out there again you may wonder what’s changed. Most of all what has likely changed is: You.
Decide what you’re looking for when you start dating so that you’re clear on what you want. Maybe you’re just curious to meet new people and you want to keep things casual, or perhaps you know you want another
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How do I attract my soulmate?
This week's question comes from Dina:
“Hi Orna and Matthew,
Here’s my question: How do I attract my soulmate?
I’m new to your work and I like what I’ve seen so far. I don’t think I’ve ever really thought about finding a soulmate. I’ve never been married and while I date a lot I’ve never dated a man that I wanted to marry. I guess I’ve been dating by accident ;).
Now that I’m thinking about actually wanting to get married, how do I identify and attract a soulmate into my life?
Thanks!”
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Hello Dina,
Thanks for reaching out to us! So much of what you can achieve in your life begins with making a decision that you really want something. Shifting your
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How To Get Over A Breakup And Actually Leave Your Ex In The Past
When you can’t stop thinking about the person who broke your heart and you’re struggling with how to get over a breakup, start taking deliberate steps to heal your heart and move on. Trust us it’s better than opening another pint of ice cream and looking through your ex’s Facebook feed.
Falling in love is the easy part of a relationship. It doesn’t matter if you’ve been with someone for 3 months, 3 years, or 3 decades, getting over a breakup is hard. For some people, the pain is so intense it’s physical.
Heartbreak can feel like it is the end of the world, so it’s important to remind your brain that the world is not stopping. The sun will continue to rise and set,
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If You’re Dating After Being Single For A Long Time, You Need To Know These 11 Things
When you’re considering dating after being single for a long time you can feel anxious about how to get started and wonder what has changed since you last went looking for love. Dating doesn’t have to be a daunting experience; with the right mindset and purposeful action you can make dating fun and effective.
Dating when you are in your 20’s and even into your early 30’s is much different than dating after you’ve been single for a long time. Back then you had a much larger social circle and probably spent more time hanging out with friends than you do now. It was easier to make connections and you had more opportunities to meet other singles.
Now that you’re older
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Am I Destined To Be Alone?
This week's question comes from Maggie:
"Hello Orna and Matthew,
I believe I am destined to be alone.
I am alone in this world and I am going to be that way for the rest of my life. I have been told by some very good psychics that I made a life contract that is solid, and I am not to have a love partner this lifetime. The only glimmer of hope and the reason for this email is that a few of the psychics said there is someone waiting for me. If that is true, then I want to meet him.
Over the years I have tried to change my contract as some psychics have said it was possible. I meditate and believe in a higher power and the power of our inner beings to guide us. Up
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