This week's question comes from Liz:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
I am writing to you because I really like how you give it to the person straight up each week in your ezine. I am divorced for several years, and have dated A LOT! I’ve had a few boyfriends since my divorce and I guess what I want to know is why would I be attracting the same kind of men into my life?
I find that the men who show up for me are either more interested in sex than a relationship, or they are narcissists, sociopaths or a combination of the two. I’ve listened to a few of your webinars and that makes me think that there must be something with me that I’m attracting these men over and over
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Can we just be friends?
This week's question comes from Michelle:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
My heart is so full of gratitude and love for the advice I am receiving from you.
I enjoy reading or listening to them again and again, so insightful and good.
I am 43 and single parent, was married before and now annulled.
I have a question that is bugging my mind. I met a man and fell in so madly in love with him. We became lovers but he broke up with me when he learned I was having a conversation with a guy on Facebook. It has been 5 months after the break up and that time, there was communication, as he wanted us to remain friends. I agreed as the pain was unbearable. Also, I am
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Just Pick ONE Thing…
This week's question comes from Kari:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I’m writing to you as this year is quickly ending and I’m feeling like I did last year… A year ago I was thinking that the New Year would be the year that I finally change things and connect with my Soulmate – sadly, that didn’t happen… yet again.
Being on my own doesn’t bother me, I love my job, I have great friends and family, I would like to share my life with someone.
Yes there are things that I could be better about with my own self care, going to the gym regularly, going on dates more often, taking some time to do some hobbies that I have pushed aside for one reason or another.
When I start
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Can’t Start A Fire Without A Spark
This week's question comes from Dale:
Hi Orna & Mathew,
I am following your letters and attended a webinar that was awesome. I love the depth of your perspective! So much of the info I see on dating is superficial and geared towards what women should be doing to 'attract' men and keep them. I'm tired of hearing everything from this point of view! What we should be wearing, saying, doing and not doing. I'm interested in figuring out what my response is to the men I'm dating and how to know if I should pursue investing in a relationship or not.
I'm a Coach myself and very aware of the fact that who we are attracted to are not always the right person for us.
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How to end the struggle?
This week's question comes from Valerie:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
I admire you both so much and I love how you share so much about your relationship and how it took a long time for you each to figure things out.
I always question those people who say they never fight, or that it’s easy… it just seems suspect to me. I really appreciate your direct approach in how you answer questions and spell things out.
Currently, I am divorced mom with 2 kids and being a single mom has its challenges all around, a lot of the issue is that I cannot afford to work with you. Does that just mean I’m out of luck? Can I book just 1 session and see how things go?
I would really
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How do I make love last?
This week's question comes from Connie:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
I am a big fan of yours and I’ve been reading your newsletter for over 3 years. I decided it was my turn to ask you a question.
I really resonate with everything you speak about. I do believe that love is inside of me and that I am a catch. To be completely honest, I know I am a great date, and an awesome girlfriend.
What I want to know is how do you make love last?
I seem to be stuck in good to great monogamous relationships. Most of my relationships last for a few years but for one reason or another they end.
I just turned 47 and I’m starting to think that maybe I do have a broken
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