This week's question comes from Mary:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I’ve been following you for many years and I think you give the best dating advice for women. I really appreciate how you tell it like it is and share perspectives from the male side and the female side since you are a couple.
Lately, it’s becoming clear to me that I struggle in my love life because of my parents. It’s not that they were bad parents; it’s just that they didn’t make me a priority. Each was so busy with their careers, all the kids at home, and it was more like the Von Trapp family in the Sound Of Music before Maria came along.
I would watch that movie and longed for a Maria to show up
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Have I met my Soulmate?
This week's question comes from Arminda:
Hello Orna and Matthew,
How do you know when you have found your soulmate? Because, I have met a guy who really made my world turn around, but I do not know if I had caused the same feeling on him and I am feeling a bit frustrated, for not getting much of a response from him.
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Dear Arminda,
This is a great question and one we feel very passionate about. Let’s start with the soulmate part. We are of the belief that we don’t have just one soulmate.
Soulmate love is as much a choice as it is fate.
The universe would be a very cruel place to just put one soulmate out of billions here on Earth and expect us to
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When The One Isn’t Your Beloved
This week's question comes from Casey:
Dear Orna and Matthew,
I am broken-hearted, the guy I've been seeing for about a year and I just broke up. I really thought he was the one. I've been married and divorced when I was much younger and I really thought I had figured out this whole relationship thing...now I feel terrible and like I don't know anything at all. Help!
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Dear Casey,
Thank you for reaching out during this vulnerable time. Discovering that someone is not 'The One' is never fun.
First off, be sure to take good care of yourself during this time. Be kind. Spend time doing things that you love (like a bubble bath, or hiking, or visit a museum).
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What is it costing you?
This week's question comes from Adrienne:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
Thank you for all you do to spread love around the globe and help people find love. I really liked how you answered a question a few weeks ago when the person asked some version of why do women have to change, and what about the men who are blocked from love.
I appreciate you sharing that each person has a journey to love regardless of their gender, and how it’s what we don’t know that ends up blocking us from the love we desire.
I want to know your thoughts on my situation… I’m a woman in my early 50s and I’ve had my share of relationships, and right now I feel like I’m finally coming into my own.
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Getting over divorce…
This week's question comes from Didi:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I really appreciate the advice you give and hope you can help me. I was married for 25 years when my husband asked for a divorce. He said that the passion had left our marriage and that he had met someone else. He wanted to be with her.
I was devastated. It took me years to get over it and I’ve been dating regularly for the last year and a half. This is my problem, I just can’t stop thinking about my ex-husband. He was my first and only love, my soulmate. When I’m on a date I can’t help but compare how I feel to how I felt when I met my ex. And no man seems to measure up.
I know it doesn’t make
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The gift of saying, “No!”
This week's question comes from Diane:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
As the holiday season is fast approaching I am starting to find that I am stressed out more than usual. I’m doing my best to balance my work, my kids, and the guy I’m dating and I feel like I’m failing… at all of it!
I think you give the best dating advice for women, and I’m hoping that will translate into Life Advice.
What can I do when I feel like there is too much on my plate?
Overwhelmed and Overworked."
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Hi Diane,
Thank you for reaching out to us. As Soulmate Coaches for women, we have tackled this issue many times with clients through the years.
Let us introduce you to two
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