This week's question comes from Shellie:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I am so grateful for the two of you. I watch all your webinars and I read your newsletter weekly. You give a completely unique point of view about love and relationships that for me adds up to the best dating advice.
Here’s my question: Why do I have to be the one to change in order for love to come in?
Every week in your newsletter there’s a beautiful quote at the top that often says how we are born as love and that love is our birthright. So if that’s true, how come I have to do something differently for that love to show up for me?"
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Hi Shellie,
Thank you so much for your positive
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Is your love-ability on the line?
This week's question comes from Trudie:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I think you two are awesome! I love watching you interact on your webinars, it’s clear that you are real people who love one another. Thank you for being a shining example of what it is that I want!
Since I read your weekly notes I know that you’re always advising to date A LOT, so that’s what I’ve been doing. Unfortunately, I am not getting the results that I want and I think I may be feeling a bit depressed about it.
I get plenty of action online and offline from guys but nothing seems to really go anywhere. I can’t remember dating someone for longer than a couple of months. Whether I’m crazy
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Are you relying on Love By Accident?
This week's question comes from Gillian:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I love your message about love and I truly believe you give the best dating advice. Maybe you can help me; I’ve dated a guy named Bill for 5 months. It got messy this past month he is not moving things forward and I miss him. It seems to be fizzling out on his end.
I feel sad because there was a nice connection with him.
Friends say move on yet my heart misses the connection and craves his attention.
It seems I’ve moved on so many times after 9 years of dating post divorce… I yearn for a deep satisfying connection. Right now I just feel sad.
Any thoughts?"
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Hi Gillian,
Thank
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How do I know if I should commit to him?
This week's question comes from Joan:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I love your newsletter and read it regularly! You guys rock! I really hope you can help me out.
I’ve been dating a guy for a while and I’m not sure how to know if I should commit more deeply to him or not. He’s been in my circle of friends for a few years and reached out to me for a date.
I was flattered and know him to be a good guy so I said yes. He clearly likes me and I know he has good intentions so I want to give him a chance and it’s clear he wants to move things forward with me, and I’m not so sure…
There are a couple of issues that have me confused. First off, he is not my usual physical
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What’s the deal with Soulmates?
This week's question comes from Tina:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
Thank you for your weekly notes, I feel like I learn from you every single week. I’m reaching out because I’m really struggling as I work with a guy that I have a very strong connection with – I feel that we are soulmates. As long as I’ve known him he’s been in a relationship. Working together it’s obvious there is chemistry between us, and we are friends too.
I do my best to be respectful of the fact that he is unavailable. Recently they broke up and I felt myself feeling distant, I just didn’t want to get hurt. Nothing happened between us, I was really torn because I care about him, and I also have
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Are You Dating Like A Teenager?
This week's question comes from Rita:
"Orna and Matthew,
I have been divorced for just over 7 years now and I never in a million years thought that I would still be alone… I like myself fine, however I really want to share my life with someone.
It seems that I cannot get past the 3-4 months in with a man. By that time, I’m starting to worry and wonder if it’s going anywhere… and when I have “the talk” it ends.
Clearly I haven’t figured things out yet and I don’t know what it is that I'm doing wrong. Do you have any advice for a young-at-heart 57 year old that is active and adventurous?"
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Hi Rita,
Thank you for sharing your heartfelt struggle. We
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