This week's question comes from Samantha:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I have been following you two for a while and I really love your very direct responses. I resonate so much with what you two share and I think you give the best dating advice. Now it’s my turn to ask a question. I sure hope you pick mine to answer! (Please pick me!)
I just don’t like dating. In fact, I hate it. I know how to date; I just don’t like it. It feels fake and phony and quite frankly I don’t meet any men that I find remotely attractive. Online is bad enough, and when I go to singles events offline there are always way more women than men and it feels yucky and competitive.
Do I have to
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How do I know when to commit?
This week's question comes from Zoe:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I am a bit puzzled about the dating process. I have just started dating again, after an 18-year relationship. The person I dated twice is a very kind gentleman who likes me very much. I also like him and enjoy his company, although I am reluctant to date any further, as I feel I need to have more dating experiences with other people, given that I am new to the dating world. He has asked me about my likes, dislikes and to see if we are compatible with regards to various activities and I found that in general, I was. I feel that my other hesitation has to do with physical attributes and when he started to grab
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How do I get my needs met?
This week's question comes from Suzanne:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
My question is:
What would be the most important thing to do for yourself if you have that “no needs” complex due to having grown up in an alcoholic family?
Thank you very much and I hope you choose to answer my question because I really think you two care about your community and give the best dating advice."
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Hi Suzanne,
Thank you for your question and we completely understand that with the set of circumstances you grew up with in your family of origin that you learned to get by without having your needs met and to sacrifice for the needs of others.
The first step is the most
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How can I be more visible?
This week's question comes from Niveen:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I do believe that Creating Love On Purpose® is the only way to attract what you need. My biggest problem in love is the men I feel that I deserve I seem invisible to them.
I am very visible in my work and socially but in love I feel I get pushed aside. I am ready to be visible to the men I deserve and to take a leap of faith to good men. I just need guidance.
Thank you."
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Dear Niveen,
We’re so glad to hear you are on board with the idea of Creating Love On Purpose®! We know from the experience we’ve had with thousands of women over the last 8+ years that this is the most effective way
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The myth of “Accidental Love”
This week's question comes from Brenda:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I’ve been reading your newsletter for a while and I hear what you are saying about working on love and I’m skeptical. Won’t I just meet the right guy? Won't things just work out for me when I meet him?
That’s how it’s worked for most of my friends. They were single, or struggling, until they met Mr. Right. So I’m a bit confused what you mean about love strategies… would you please clarify? I am 37 and I really do want to share my life with someone and so far that hasn’t worked for me. I don’t see any patterns, all the guys I’ve dated are all very different.
Can you help me?"
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Hi
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How do I find my blind spots?
This week's question comes from Yala:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
Thank you for answering questions, I really think you give the best dating advice. I am an attractive 33 year old woman and I have never had a serious relationship before; just meaningless or meaningful only for me sex. I am looking for a partner that I am sexually attracted to, its not like it has to be Mr. Universe but I DO HAVE TO FIND HIM ATTRACTIVE not in a butterflies way but generally handsome and suitable.
Here is the catch, I was looking at my history and it seems that every guy that I am attracted to barely looks at me or barely even notices me, while all the ugly ones seem pursue me.
I
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