This week's question comes from Rebecca:
"Hello Orna and Matthew,
Thanks in advance for taking my question! I believe that I've met my soulmate but I feel confused about whether he's a romantic soulmate or a friend soulmate. We both feel a strong, unique, and romantic connection with one another but when we dated for a couple months last year it just didn't work.
This summer we spent more time together (not being physical at all) and agreed that we both really enjoyed it but when I express what I want (a deep relationship and partnership with someone) he continues to say he doesn't want to be in a romantic relationship with anyone right now. When we're both open
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The Power Of Intention
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I really love your weekly notes; they always brighten my day and give me a new way to think about love and dating. As this year draws to a close, I’m wondering what I can do to start off 2017 to set myself up for success in love and all other areas of my life.
Do you know any rituals or things that I can do?
Happy Holidays!"
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Hi Joanne,
Thank you for your positive feedback. We love hearing from our Love On Purpose Community.
We do believe in the power of ritual and even more important the power of INTENTION.
So much suffering in the world occurs from abdicating our own power. We commend you for asking for guidance to start
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I’m ready, where is he?
This week's question comes from Carrie:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
After years of bad relationships (including an ugly divorce in my 20's), I just decided one day to stop the madness! And I took some time for myself and really stopped dating. Now, I've been single for several years and I feel good on my own, really good. I don't need someone to complete me or anything like that. I've taken some time to check in with myself and keep asking myself what do I want and I DO want to share my life with someone. I've done everything I can think of in terms of working on myself and my guy is still not here. What am I supposed to do? I'm not impatient but I keep wondering where is
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How can I be more social?
This week's question comes from Lee Ann:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
My last relationship ended almost 4 months ago. I'm finding that I have a strong tendency and desire to isolate. I feel really good when I'm completely alone with no demands on me, or pressure to do or be anything other than what and where I am at that time. And when the tough feelings come up, I'm able to be completely with them right away and love myself. When I go out to the store or for a walk, I'm happy to see people and smile, and it feels like I'm in a relaxed place of peace. But I'm worried that this isolating tendency with no desire to plan social get-togethers or go out socially isn't good for
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Why do I take his behavior personally?
This week's question comes from Clare:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
Thank you so much for all your work on the subject of love. I read your notes regularly and have been working on my blocks for some years now. I have recognized some of my dating patterns and have become more conscious of my feelings.
3 months ago I met a wonderful guy. A connection we both cherished and appreciated. However in the last week there seems to be a shift. We've had little 'discussions' about household chores: he's very set in his ways and I have spoken about this and he is aware of it. He is positive with this and says we need to evolve together as we are learning about each other.
I
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Why do victims of abuse choose abusers?
This week's question comes from CJ:
"Hi! I want to know if you can help me understand something. Why is it that being abused in your life helps you choose people that have abusive tendencies? And how do you get yourself to a place where you can find happiness and comfort?"
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Dear CJ,
Thank you for coming forward to ask for help in understanding why this happens. We learn to receive love at a very young age. And as we grow older how we learned to receive love becomes what our subconscious mind identifies as “love.”
The subconscious doesn’t have the ability to judge, it simply identifies what is Known and what is Unknown.
When we are raised in an
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