This week's question comes from Janet:
Hello Orna and Matthew,
I’ve been reading your emails for a couple years now and I guess it’s time that I write you to gain some clarity. I’m highly educated, successful (I work in medical field) – I feel like I have everything in my life that I want… except my guy.
The concept you share about your love imprint has really stuck with me and I have really thought deeply about where I’m at and I just can’t seem to get a grasp on what my blocks are.
Recently, I had an ugly break up with a really great guy. I really thought things were going well, he pursued me at the beginning, and it seems that things changed a few
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Attract Your Soulmate
Where Are the Spiritual Men?
This week's question comes from Sarah:
Dear Orna and Matthew,
I've done a lot of personal growth and think it is an important part of who I am in the world. And yet most of the guys I meet (including my ex-husband) are NOT interested in growing and changing. I want to share my life with someone who wants to grow with me! Do guys like that even exist?
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Dear Sarah,
Yes, there are plenty of men who are interested in personal growth. One thing you want to be sure of is that you haven't made the decision that there are not men who are. If you have decided that, then you will continue to find evidence of that being true. It's a funny thing that we really
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Tired of One Night Stands?
This week's question comes from Anonymous:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I have been in and out of relationships for the past two years. I want to fall in love again. I am tired of one night stands! Please help me, I need to know how to attract love. I miss loving!"
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Dear Anonymous,
We hear you, and we want you to know that we've been where you are. Wanting love, desiring love, and feeling like it is no where to be found. So here are several suggestions for you to begin creating love on purpose immediately:
1. If you don't like one night stands - STOP HAVING THEM! (We feel there is no more to share on this subject as this is pretty darn clear. Simply
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I don’t want to regress into my old patterns…
This week's question comes from Susana:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
Thanks for the opportunity to get your help and advice. My question is: I've done all my work and I have started dating someone totally different and very special. This means I have changed. But how do I keep from going back to my old ways and make sure this relationship lasts?
Thanks!"
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Dear Susana,
How exciting! We love to hear when someone in our community has broken old patterns and created a new kind of loving relationship. Brava!
We are here to support your desire to not slip back into those old ways of being in this new relationship.
Here are a few thoughts we have about how to
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What If I Don’t Feel That Excitement?
This week's question comes from Bekah:
Hello Orna and Matthew!
I really enjoy your emails and feel that what you say really resonates with me.
I would say over the past few years I have struggled with being in relationships that I have not had strong feelings for the person and then being in relationships where my feelings were more intense, but the person lacked the level of commitment that I am interested in. This is where I am struggling with listening to what feels like my heart or feelings, and stepping back and noticing a pattern and wanting to be involved with a different type of person and relationship.
I am currently dating someone that I
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Did I mess it up?
This week's question comes from EB:
"Hello Orna and Matthew,
Last summer, I filled three pages of my journal with all the traits I want in my man.
Two days later, I met him! I was amazed at how he was just what I wanted. We were together for seven wonderful months. He wasn't perfect, but he was just right for me.
He was a confident, masculine man who treated me like a queen. After we hit a small rough patch, he broke up with me. Via e-mail. I was devastated. I had done all this work on myself to clear my blocks.
A week later he reached out and admitted that he just got scared. He said being in love makes him feel thrown off. It's overwhelming. He
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