This week's question comes from Mary:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I’ve been following you for many years and I think you give the best dating advice for women. I really appreciate how you tell it like it is and share perspectives from the male side and the female side since you are a couple.
Lately, it’s becoming clear to me that I struggle in my love life because of my parents. It’s not that they were bad parents; it’s just that they didn’t make me a priority. Each was so busy with their careers, all the kids at home, and it was more like the Von Trapp family in the Sound Of Music before Maria came along.
I would watch that movie and longed for a Maria to show up
Read More
Attract Your Soulmate
Have I met my Soulmate?
This week's question comes from Arminda:
Hello Orna and Matthew,
How do you know when you have found your soulmate? Because, I have met a guy who really made my world turn around, but I do not know if I had caused the same feeling on him and I am feeling a bit frustrated, for not getting much of a response from him.
---
Dear Arminda,
This is a great question and one we feel very passionate about. Let’s start with the soulmate part. We are of the belief that we don’t have just one soulmate.
Soulmate love is as much a choice as it is fate.
The universe would be a very cruel place to just put one soulmate out of billions here on Earth and expect us to
Read More
Getting over divorce…
This week's question comes from Didi:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I really appreciate the advice you give and hope you can help me. I was married for 25 years when my husband asked for a divorce. He said that the passion had left our marriage and that he had met someone else. He wanted to be with her.
I was devastated. It took me years to get over it and I’ve been dating regularly for the last year and a half. This is my problem, I just can’t stop thinking about my ex-husband. He was my first and only love, my soulmate. When I’m on a date I can’t help but compare how I feel to how I felt when I met my ex. And no man seems to measure up.
I know it doesn’t make
Read More
What If I Don’t Like Dating?
This week's question comes from Christina:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
I am approaching 45 and starting to really worry that I won’t ever meet “The One.” I’m divorced and to be honest, I do not like to date. I’ve been a serial monogamist my whole life and I feel like dating is something that feels superficial and icky.
Is there hope for me? How do I change the way I feel about going on dates? Or is there another way?
Doing my best to be hopeful!
---
Hi Christina,
Thank you for your direct question and for asking for our advice. The truth is that dating is a tool that can be used efficiently if you know how to use the tool. This is true of online and offline
Read More
Do powerful women intimidate men?
This week's question comes from Alison:
Hello Orna and Matthew,
Recently I had something happen to me that has me perplexed and concerned about my love life. A male friend of mine who I respect gave me some feedback about why I seem to struggle finding quality men.
He said that he thought I was a powerful female and that most men are intimidated by me, including him!
While I am not loud, or a vexation to the spirit, I was shocked to learn that this is how I occur to others as I see myself as very shy especially when not in my comfort zone. My question now is, 'How do I soften without loosing my ability to speak up when necessary?'
---
Hi
Read More
Struggling to find a good man?
This week's question comes from Robin:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I am so tired of dating! I’ve been divorced for 10 years and dating for the last 6 or so and I can’t find any quality men. They are either bitter from their divorces, they don’t want to actually be in a relationship, or they’re just emotionally unavailable.
Where are all the conscious men who are actually looking for love that you talk about? I only seem to meet the losers!
The problem is I really want to find a good man. I dream of living my life with my soulmate and I yearn to find a man who wants what I want. I’m getting frustrated and some days just want to give up.
Please
Read More