This week's question comes from Sad and Single:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I’m kind of embarrassed to reach out to you two because I am a coach and should be a colleague and yet my secret is that I am not in a relationship…
I know what I’m looking for in a relationship, and even though I’m always helping my own clients call in the one I haven’t been able to do this for myself.
Whew! That was hard to type out… I guess I have a lot of shame because I really believe in the coaching I was trained in and I know it works… it’s worked for a lot of people, but so far, not me.
Can you help me? I feel like I’m really I’m running out of time and that I’m running out of
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Attract Your Soulmate
You are the common denominator…
This week's question comes from Andrea:
"Orna and Matthew,
Thank you for all that you do to help those dating after divorce get back out in the world and date. I’ve been single for the last five years and although I’ve had plenty of interesting experiences with men, I haven’t found my soulmate.
I really want to spend my life with “my man,” I just don’t know why I am having such a hard time finding him. I’m 47 and I’m in great shape. I’m successful in my life and I everyone I know would refer to me as “a catch!”
I really want to know what is in my way and so I’ve been looking through my past relationships and I cannot seem to find what you refer to as The
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What it takes to remove blocks to love…
This week's question comes from Annette:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I really like your direct approach in how you answer these questions every week. I must admit I’m a bit addicted to reading your blog. By far, you seem to have the best dating advice.
My question is this: What does it take to remove blocks to love?
I understand why I’m blocked. I think I have all the insights that I’ve searched for over a decade now. Unfortunately, I’m still attracting the same kind of emotionally unavailable men.
The men that I’m attracted to seem different in the beginning, yet all my relationships seem to end up at the same place in the end. At first it was the guy breaking
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Do I ask him out?
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I really think you two are so adorable together and that you give the best dating advice. I’m curious what you’ll think about my situation…
I know this guy and I really like him. I have a membership to the museum in our town and I know he used to, but he gave up his membership. There’s a new exhibit and I am wondering if I should invite him because I have the tickets.
What do you think?"
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Hi Joyce,
Thank you for asking us what we think of you asking this guy out. You let us know that you like him… but not much else.
We are curious about the kind of relationship you want.
When you think about how you would like your intimate
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I know he is not right for me
This week's question comes from Marni:
"Dearest Orna and Matthew,
How can I shift/release/realign the incredibly painful belief that I am not wanted? I can't believe the pain I feel over this again…
I find that I am deeply triggered by a guy I KNOW IS NOT RIGHT FOR ME when I found out he’s in touch with other women… what makes this even worse is that we are just friends.
Huge appreciation for your dating advice."
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Hi Marni,
We feel for your aching heart and we want you to know that the charge you have on this guy is not because he is “The One” for you. Your Beloved will be available for you, he will choose you, and he will pursue you.
The world
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Is it ever okay to pursue a man?
This week's question comes from Joann:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I have a general question about men and pursuing. I’ve heard from a lot of dating and relationship experts who mention that some men are shy and have a difficult time pursuing a woman. I call them the fisherman, and the pursuers I refer to as hunters. I know according to He Is Just Not That Into You, that a woman should never pursue a man. Anyway, what would you say about the fisherman? Do you think it is ok to pursue a man to a certain extent?
Thank you."
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Hi Joann,
Thank you for your very straightforward question. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a woman pursing a man as long as
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