This week's question comes from Julie
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
Is there a book out that is excellent and affordable on how to get a man attracted and hooked on me emotionally, intellectually and create amazing chemistry?
The man who happens to be our child's father recently told me that he is meeting up with his ex for the week. I think I may have some blocks to love. I am now 44. When I met him I got engaged right away and then after being intimate one time got pregnant. I felt very sad thinking I may have made a mistake and I wasn't having lots of chemistry with him. I didn't like that when he smiled you see mostly gums instead of teeth. Plus he doesn't like to
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Blocks to Love
What about my freedom?
This week's question comes from Olivia:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I don’t think I fit into your usual advice seekers. I’m an independent woman who has travelled and worked around the world. I’ve never had a problem meeting men and have had many wonderful lovers. The problem is they fall in love with me and I don’t initially start out thinking I will break their hearts, but inevitably I do.
I do want to find my soulmate, but it seems impossible to find a man who has the freedom to travel the world with me and who I want to marry.
Can I keep my freedom and find my “One?” I don’t know. It doesn’t seem possible to me. I’ve met some wonderful men who were perfect at
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Is This a Dealbreaker?
This week's question comes from Tamlyn
"Hello Orna and Matthew,
I never would have thought I would be writing for advice on this issue because I've always perceived complaints about a lover with poor personal hygiene to be easily resolvable.
I recently met a man whose heart and worldview match my own. I care about him and see him as someone I could build a future with. The problem is that his teeth are in a really bad condition and he often looks greasy and uncared for. I find this totally off-putting, not just for aesthetic reasons but because to me its a sign of somebody who doesn't care for himself. If he doesn't take care of himself how can I trust and respect
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Tired of being lonely…
This week's question comes from Kama:
Hello Orna and Matthew,
I’m a 37 yr old woman and I’ve never been married. I’ve dated a lot, but I’ve never had a relationship last much longer than a year. For some reason, whatever feelings I have for a man when we start dating don’t seem to last. I get bored or frustrated with the situation and I end the relationship.
The problem is I really want to spend my life with my soulmate, but I’m afraid I’m never going to find him. I’m just so tired of being lonely. Part of me believes I should just settle for the next decent guy who wants to marry me…
I don’t know what to do, and would appreciate any help you can send my
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Willing To Take A Small Loss For HUGE Gains?
This week's question comes from Deborah:
Hello Orna and Matthew,
It’s funny to think this is the first time I’m writing directly to you as I feel like I’ve known you both for many years now through your online events and webinars.
From all that I’ve heard from you, I’m pretty sure you’ll tell me to move along and let him go, and maybe that is what I need to do… yet I find myself holding on to hope. Maybe you can show me what I did wrong.
There’s a guy I know through my small community and he is exactly what I want. He’s a prominent member of the community, smart, funny, articulate – when I see him I feel like a schoolgirl with a crush.
Basically he invites
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Told You Are TOO Emotional?
This week's question comes from Nikki:
Dear Orna and Matthew,
I am really struggling, and I hope you can help me. I seem to be stuck in a pattern of attracting men who seem like a good fit to start, but the relationships only last about 3-6 months. By that point, I always thought I’m supposed to relax in the relationship… when I do, the men leave me.
They all tell me some version of being drawn to my self-esteem and my confidence, and that they now find that I’m “too emotional.” It seems that when I express my true self and let my guard down, they don’t like who I really am. That I am somehow too much for them to handle.
I don’t feel that I am any more emotional
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