This week's question comes from Liz:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
I’ve been following you for a few years and I think you have the best dating advice for women.
What I’ve noticed from paying attention to my patterns is that I seem to date two different types of guys: One guy I feel a strong connection with right away and I’m bending over backwards to be available and do things so he likes me, and the other is chasing after me, is nice, but I don’t feel the same spark of chemistry that I do with the other type of guy.
I’ve always thought things would be great if I could just get a guy that I really like to like me back, but so far that’s not how it works out for
Read More
Blocks to Love
What’s LUCK Got To Do With It?
This week's question comes from Julie:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
I am new to your community and I really love what you say about blocks to love. My question is more along the lines of how people create love... does a person have to be lucky to have it?
When I see people that are in healthy relationships (which is not that often) I find myself thinking how lucky they are. I did that when I first found out about you two… I though you were LUCKY to have found each other.
After listening to you both some more I know you say to pay attention to my inner dialog and this is how I discovered this voice in my head about luck.
What can you tell me about luck and love?
Read More
Can I change who I attract?
This week's question comes from Milike:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
Whenever I start being more intimate in a relationship and want to get more connected and more intimate they leave me without a real reason. I know that they like me but they don't want to have a relationship. Maybe I don't see the red flags maybe I'm not in my feminine energy (I am working on that).
I have a question if you can answer. I think I feel not good enough, not worthy of love and I don't trust the flow of the relationship. My father wasn't there for me to solve my problems and show me the solutions when I was a child; my mother was doing that for me. I don't know if this is the reason but
Read More
Dating Advice: Are You Stuck On A Schmuck?
This week's dating question comes from JT:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
To my delight, I have already been doing all the things you mention in your trainings to bring in the "One." Here's my issue though and I would really appreciate some concrete instruction of what to do about it. My heart is still stuck on my ex husband!
Tragic I know. I'm a capable, strong, open, generous, beautiful 52-year old woman, but this man is still on my mind, daily. I am ready for new love but something keeps pulling me back.
He used my heart as a punching bag (toward the end of our 22 years). I could list dozens of reasons that he is bad for me, but I still love him. It's not
Read More
I’m not attracted to the men I meet…
This week's question comes from Christina:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
Hopefully you can help me. I’m getting so frustrated with online dating and am afraid I’ll never meet my soulmate.
My question is - How do I balance trying to find a good man with the need to be attracted to him? I'm trying to be open but am getting frustrated because I try to focus more on the profile online but find that I'm not physically attracted to most of them when we meet.
It all just feels like a waste of time!
---
Dear Christina,
It is all too common to feel frustrated with dating, particularly online dating. We hear it all the time from our clients and our
Read More
Do men have a Love Imprint™?
This week's question comes from Joy:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
I've been reading your weekly posts for years, and look forward to Monday to read them.
Today a thought occurred to me, how do men think? It seems the Love Imprint is around women's thought processes. Perhaps I feel this way because, for the most part women write to you, and the responses could be directed from the feminine side. Perhaps Mathew could share, what do men think? Do they also struggle with their past imprints as women?
For instance, when you said, "You are choosing to allow yourself to love men who reflect back to you the energetic dynamic of love that was present for you in your
Read More