Do you have a habit of giving too much in your relationships? Have you felt like your needs didn’t count or matter to a significant other? Or have you gone into sacrifice, giving and giving to your partner wishing and hoping he would reciprocate?
Over giving is not the same as being generous or conscientious; it’s actually a detriment to creating the lasting love you long for. Even worse, it breeds feelings of anger and resentment alienating you from those you love.
If you’re constantly trying to earn approval and acceptance, never taking time for yourself, or if you feel guilty receiving from others, not good at asking for help or making requests, it’s very likely
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Blocks to Love
Why Do I Keep Dreaming About My Ex?
This week's question comes from Nina:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I keep dreaming about my ex and it has me really confused.
I broke up with him over 5 years ago because he was verbally abusive and definitely a narcissist. When I first met him though, I was really attracted to him and I thought he might be The One. It wasn’t until later when I saw who he really was that I got out. It took me a long time to get over that relationship
I’m currently dating a really great guy. In fact, we’re talking about moving in together. He is the opposite of my ex – kind, thoughtful, supportive. He’s a really great guy and I’m so glad we’re together.
The problem is… I keep
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Why Do I Attract Narcissists & Selfish Guys? How Can I Change This?
Do you have a pattern of toxic relationships? You meet a guy who is so amazing at the start – charismatic, charming, and so into you. But as soon as you get hooked, he starts becoming controlling and critical. Do you ever ask yourself, “Why do I attract narcissists and selfish guys? What can I do to finally break this pattern?”
The first step is to understand why you are attracting narcissists in the first place. Then you can begin to change your strategies for finding love.
While your pattern of attracting narcissists may leave you feeling hopeless about your prospects for lasting love, the truth is you can break this pattern by developing new dating strategies to
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How Can A Negative Attitude Block Me From Finding True Love?
This week's question comes from Mathilda:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I’ve got such a negative attitude about love and relationships these days. I can’t seem to believe that love is in the cards for me and then when I go online I just see a bunch of fake profiles or guys I would never date. I’m sure that people are constantly being scammed on dating sites.
Is there any hope for someone like me? I can’t seem to get over my negative attitude."
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Dear Mathilda,
Thank you for reaching out to us, it’s clear that you are looking for some guidance that will help you feel better. To answer your question, yes it will be more difficult to create lasting love when you
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What if he ghosts you?
This week's question comes from Gail:
“Hi Orna and Matthew,
What if he ghosted you and 7 weeks later a one-sentence text and photo comes out of the blue? Respond? Don’t respond? Do I wait to respond?
I’m confused as to what this means. Is he interested in me again? Should I text a guy who ghosted me? I’m really tired of games and this seems to be a common behavior with men and new relationships.
My friends say he ghosted you so just ignore him. But I want a relationship and he could be interested. I just don’t know.
Clearly, I need some help with dating. I’m tired of feeling like I didn’t get the memo.
Help!”
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Hi Gail,
We agree that situations
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7 Red Flags In A New Relationship That Are Persistent Signs It’s Not Going To Work Out
A new relationship is exciting and intoxicating. It’s easy to put on rose-colored glasses and see your new partner as perfect when all the feel-good chemicals are flowing. Don’t let your desire for this relationship to work out obscure your common sense. Ignoring red flags in a new relationship will ultimately lead you to frustration and likely Heartbreak Hotel.
There are no guarantees in love. Having a stringent deal-breaker list only keeps you from risking your heart. The best-case scenario is to keep an eye out for issues that indicate this new relationship is headed in the wrong direction while tucking those rose-colored glasses into a drawer for use later on if
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