This week's question comes from Joann:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I have a general question about men and pursuing. I’ve heard from a lot of dating and relationship experts who mention that some men are shy and have a difficult time pursuing a woman. I call them the fisherman, and the pursuers I refer to as hunters. I know according to He Is Just Not That Into You, that a woman should never pursue a man. Anyway, what would you say about the fisherman? Do you think it is ok to pursue a man to a certain extent?
Thank you."
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Hi Joann,
Thank you for your very straightforward question. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a woman pursing a man as long as
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Blocks to Love
How do I overcome my fear?
This week's question comes from Carol:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I hope you can help me. I’m stuck in fear and don’t know what to do.
I'm in a relationship where we use each other. He uses me as a part time companion whom he'll never marry (he's never been married and never will). I use him because we have a wonderful physical life together and we go out to places and events I enjoy. We do care a great deal for each other though I know I care more for him than he does me.
I have been single and dating in Los Angeles for at least 12 years now. I've met some very nice men where there is just friendship but no physical attraction. I've done the dance scene, the
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How can I attract a match?
This week's question comes from Jahari:
"Hello Orna and Matthew,
I really need your help! I’m reaching out because I think you two give the best dating advice… here’s my story:
I have been single for 15 years. I've "peeked out" periodically to try forming relationships with a few men who seemed eligible. A couple men were emotionally unavailable and seemed to want a relationship, but I soon figured out they wanted sex without commitment.
I have a LOT on the ball. I am very giving, while being able to receive as well. I am attractive, look and feel much younger than my chronological years, am a health professional (Raw Vegan Chef/Health & Nutrition Coach).
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How to get rid of Limiting Beliefs?
This week's question comes from Sonia:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I feel rather embarrassed to ask you this, as I am a coach myself. With all the work I’ve done on myself and all the work I do with my clients I am still single and even though I know WHY I am the way I am, and I know WHY I’m having a hard time creating my ideal love relationship, I can’t seem to do it.
What is the secret to removing limiting beliefs?"
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Hi Sonia,
Thank you for reaching out to us. There is no shame in asking a question and we’re thrilled that you asked us this one.
There are great coaches out there, and we have no doubt you do great work with your clients. We all have
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Who will love me if I’m overweight?
This week's question comes from Deb:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
Do you have any suggestions for finding love when you are overweight? I feel like men don't give me an opportunity because of my size.
Recently I started going to the gym and I've modified my dietary habits. It's frustrating that appearance seems to be more important than being intelligent or emotionally balanced.
Thanks!"
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Dear Deb,
Congratulations on taking actions to feel better about yourself! And we think whether you are working out or not, the problem is not your weight.
Over the years we’ve helped thousands of women find their Beloved and those women have come in all shapes,
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Why do I have to change for love?
This week's question comes from Shellie:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I am so grateful for the two of you. I watch all your webinars and I read your newsletter weekly. You give a completely unique point of view about love and relationships that for me adds up to the best dating advice.
Here’s my question: Why do I have to be the one to change in order for love to come in?
Every week in your newsletter there’s a beautiful quote at the top that often says how we are born as love and that love is our birthright. So if that’s true, how come I have to do something differently for that love to show up for me?"
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Hi Shellie,
Thank you so much for your positive
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