This week's question comes from Gillian:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I love your message about love and I truly believe you give the best dating advice. Maybe you can help me; I’ve dated a guy named Bill for 5 months. It got messy this past month he is not moving things forward and I miss him. It seems to be fizzling out on his end.
I feel sad because there was a nice connection with him.
Friends say move on yet my heart misses the connection and craves his attention.
It seems I’ve moved on so many times after 9 years of dating post divorce… I yearn for a deep satisfying connection. Right now I just feel sad.
Any thoughts?"
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Hi Gillian,
Thank
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Blocks to Love
What’s the deal with Soulmates?
This week's question comes from Tina:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
Thank you for your weekly notes, I feel like I learn from you every single week. I’m reaching out because I’m really struggling as I work with a guy that I have a very strong connection with – I feel that we are soulmates. As long as I’ve known him he’s been in a relationship. Working together it’s obvious there is chemistry between us, and we are friends too.
I do my best to be respectful of the fact that he is unavailable. Recently they broke up and I felt myself feeling distant, I just didn’t want to get hurt. Nothing happened between us, I was really torn because I care about him, and I also have
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Are You Dating Like A Teenager?
This week's question comes from Rita:
"Orna and Matthew,
I have been divorced for just over 7 years now and I never in a million years thought that I would still be alone… I like myself fine, however I really want to share my life with someone.
It seems that I cannot get past the 3-4 months in with a man. By that time, I’m starting to worry and wonder if it’s going anywhere… and when I have “the talk” it ends.
Clearly I haven’t figured things out yet and I don’t know what it is that I'm doing wrong. Do you have any advice for a young-at-heart 57 year old that is active and adventurous?"
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Hi Rita,
Thank you for sharing your heartfelt struggle. We
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How can I be more visible?
This week's question comes from Niveen:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I do believe that Creating Love On Purpose® is the only way to attract what you need. My biggest problem in love is the men I feel that I deserve I seem invisible to them.
I am very visible in my work and socially but in love I feel I get pushed aside. I am ready to be visible to the men I deserve and to take a leap of faith to good men. I just need guidance.
Thank you."
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Dear Niveen,
We’re so glad to hear you are on board with the idea of Creating Love On Purpose®! We know from the experience we’ve had with thousands of women over the last 8+ years that this is the most effective way
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The myth of “Accidental Love”
This week's question comes from Brenda:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I’ve been reading your newsletter for a while and I hear what you are saying about working on love and I’m skeptical. Won’t I just meet the right guy? Won't things just work out for me when I meet him?
That’s how it’s worked for most of my friends. They were single, or struggling, until they met Mr. Right. So I’m a bit confused what you mean about love strategies… would you please clarify? I am 37 and I really do want to share my life with someone and so far that hasn’t worked for me. I don’t see any patterns, all the guys I’ve dated are all very different.
Can you help me?"
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Hi
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How do I find my blind spots?
This week's question comes from Yala:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
Thank you for answering questions, I really think you give the best dating advice. I am an attractive 33 year old woman and I have never had a serious relationship before; just meaningless or meaningful only for me sex. I am looking for a partner that I am sexually attracted to, its not like it has to be Mr. Universe but I DO HAVE TO FIND HIM ATTRACTIVE not in a butterflies way but generally handsome and suitable.
Here is the catch, I was looking at my history and it seems that every guy that I am attracted to barely looks at me or barely even notices me, while all the ugly ones seem pursue me.
I
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