Your partner has broken your trust. You struggle to stop spinning about it. It hurts to take a deep breath with that giant pit in your stomach, and your heart feels broken beyond repair. Ever wonder how to let go of hurt and betrayal so you can move on with your life? Is it possible to open your heart so you can love again?
Getting over hurt and betrayal is not something that is going to happen overnight. But if you take a conscious approach to walking away from your ex and healing your heart, you can create a greater love and a stronger partnership than the one you lost.
It is so easy to get stuck between two opposing feelings. On the one hand, you want to get back
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Blocks to Love
11 Reasons Why Dating Coaches Believe You’re Self-Sabotaging Your Chances At Love (Plus How To Fix It Now)
Do you notice that your relationships start out with a great connection, but then fall apart before there is exclusivity? Are you always finding fault with the people you date, deselecting them for superficial reasons, and not letting anyone get too close to you? These could be signs that you’re self-sabotaging your chances for love.
Understanding why this keeps happening and what to do about it are the keys to breaking the pattern of self-sabotaging relationships and creating the long-lasting love you desire.
Self-sabotage is a tricky issue because ultimately it is you that is causing the relationship to fall apart, even when it seems like the problem is the other
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Rebound Love? 7 Signs You’re In A Rebound Relationship And What To Do About It
Your heart was broken but you just met the next man or woman of your dreams. How do you know if this is a rebound relationship or if it could be the real thing? Rebound love is real and it can be just the thing to help you find the lasting love you’re looking for.
What is rebound love? It’s that feeling you get when you meet the perfect person to distract you from the pain of your break-up. It may seem like the two of you are meant to be, but when you look more closely, you see that the relationship isn’t something deep or meaningful. It’s just a passing fancy to keep your mind off your ex.
The problem with rebound love is that you are not emotionally ready for a
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Attracted to Emotionally Unavailable Men?
This week's question comes from Laura:
“Hi Orna and Matthew,
I am so glad I found you. It’s no doubt the universe pointed me in your direction just as I really need you!
I have been addicted to emotionally unavailable men for 20 years and in the past few years, have pulled myself away – like an alcoholic coming off liquor. But the feelings are still there – like the alcoholic smelling alcohol and being consumed by the longing for it! My current situation involves a male friend, with whom I’ve got close to (as friends) quickly over the last few months. He’s in a difficult emotional situation himself and in a relationship that he does not have much time for (but is
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40 Red Flags For Dating Over 40
Dating over 40 can feel very different than it did when you were younger and carefree. While it was easy to connect when most everyone you met was unmarried and looking, now you may find yourself looking for red flags to protect yourself from heartbreak. You may meet more divorcés, or find yourself worrying and wondering why someone has never been married.
Dating doesn’t have to be an obstacle course where you’re constantly hurdling over or attempting to dodge emotional baggage. Showing up with a positive attitude and a curious mindset can keep dating fun and interesting. However, you can’t afford to let attraction be the deciding factor for whether you enter into a
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Am I Destined To Be Alone?
This week's question comes from Maggie:
“Hello Orna and Matthew,
I worry that I am destined to be alone. It’s been so long since I’ve had a relationship that I often think I’m going to be alone for the rest of my life. I have been told by some very good psychics that I made a life contract that is solid, and I am not to have a love partner this lifetime. The only glimmer of hope and the reason for this email is that a few of the psychics said there is someone waiting for me. If that is true, then I want to meet him.
Over the years I have tried to change this contract as some psychics have said it’s possible to do so. I meditate and believe in a higher power and
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