This week's question comes from Michelle:
“Dear Orna and Matthew,
I heard a controversial idea from an interview the other day. ‘Stop looking for your Soulmate! Direct your attention on becoming and living as the most authentic you and creating the life and work you love to live and do…and in doing THAT you will meet your soulmate as if by magic.’ What do think about that soulmate theory?”
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Dear Michelle,
Great question! It certainly sounds like an appealing soulmate theory. Focus on living a happy life and becoming your authentic self and BAM out of nowhere your soulmate will just magically appear.
Let’s break this soulmate theory down and see if it
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Blocks to Love
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Long-lasting love requires more than just attraction and desire. Intimate relationships are nourished by emotional intimacy. If you are unable to comfortably share your emotions, navigate conflicts, and take responsibility, then you will have trouble creating and maintaining a healthy connection with your partner.
Do you use sarcasm to protect yourself? Do you find it difficult to trust others with your innermost thoughts and feelings? Do you confuse physical intimacy with emotional intimacy?
These are all
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These are clear examples of behavior that stem from a lack of self-respect. Wondering what self-respect has to do with creating lasting love?
Excellent question! One key element to having a healthy, loving future with your beloved is having a healthy, loving relationship with yourself. In order to break the pattern of unhealthy, unsatisfying, or even toxic relationships, it’s imperative that you learn
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25 Limiting Beliefs That Interfere With Finding True Love (Plus How To Turn Them Around)
Dating is hard. Love doesn’t last. True love is just a fantasy. Whatever your limiting beliefs about love and relationship are, they are interfering in your search for lasting love.
Your limiting beliefs get in the way of you staying positive and motivated about love and dating. They cause you to take self-sabotaging actions and to work against yourself. Ultimately, they leave you feeling hopeless and frustrated about the possibility of ever finding “The One.”
The truth about love is that it is always available to you. Love can be easy while at the same time requiring effort to make it last. Creating lasting love with your soulmate can be one of the most satisfying
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The feeling that love is passing you by can leave you feeling lonely and alone. It doesn’t matter if you are feeling the pressure to start a family, or whether you’re entering your Golden Years and afraid you’re going to spend them alone. Your belief that you are too old for love can cause you to lose hope, become cynical, and give up looking.
Don’t let your fears and your limiting beliefs stop you from discovering the joys of sharing your life with an ideal partner. Instead of
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Sleeping brings many benefits to your mind and body; even dreaming is an essential part of your well-being. Dreams can bring you insights about a current situation in your life and also help you to process difficult emotions. Paying attention to your dreams and allowing them to guide you can help you through challenging times in your life. But what does it mean when you dream about someone you used to love?
Dreaming about an ex can be very upsetting. Is it an omen? Are the two of you supposed to get back together? And what does this mean if you are happy in your current relationship?
Instead of spending days wondering what it means when you dream about someone you
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