This week's question comes from Tarryn:
Dear Orna and Mathew.
I have a question if you don't mind. All these techniques, internal work, etc. are great and I truly follow it and try to practice this work. However if you're with the wrong partner (for instance if I'm with a boyfriend who isn't my match/soulmate) then I could do all the internal work in the world and we still wouldn't be able to have that soulmate/relationship we want correct?
It just frustrates me that this work is incredibly great but it really wouldn't make a difference if you're with the wrong person for you? Would love to hear your opinions. For instance, even if you would have done all this
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When do you say no more?
This week's question comes from Tina:
Hello Orna and Matthew
I am in a 7-year relationship. When we met I was very busy with a new business and to be honest I was not attracted to him. He was persistent and so kind to me. Slowly his kindness started to allure me. The first time he held my hand I felt irritated then I felt I didn't really want him to let my hand go. My attraction to him grew in a way I was not familiar with. I so loved the way he adored me, and there was something I had never experienced, an aroma that I was so drawn to. I wanted to be so close to him.
This has been 7 years of pure confusion. Within a year the man that adored me, started
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Should I leave?
This week's question comes from Confused:
Hi Orna and Matthew, I have a question and would really appreciate some insight. I have been with my partner for three years now. During this time we have broken up a few times for up to 1 month. We were both miserable during the break ups and ended up talking about our issues and getting back together. BUT nothing really changes. We have the same issue again a few months later. My partner has been married before for 7 years and she left him. He is older than me at 39 and I am 31. The issue has always been around commitment. I know he loves me and he spends all of his free time with me. He is a great boyfriend in the sense
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Can I ask him to change?
This week's question comes from Krista:
Dear Orna and Matthew,
Thank you for your wonderful work!
Is it okay to ask someone to change their behavior in a relationship? Is this the same thing as trying to change who someone is? I am confused about whether it's okay to ask for what I want, when it in essence requires the other person to change.
Thank You
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Dear Krista,
What a great question! We hear this from a lot of our clients. “How can I get this man I love to behave differently?”
Well, there is no magic template for getting a person to behave differently. If you discover it, please share it with us… as we would like to use it with some
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Single for a long time?
This week's question comes from Veronica:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
I hope you can give me some advice to help me!
I have been single and without a relationship for the last 8 years (since my divorce).
Sometimes I really feel alone and it is getting sad. :( I am 36 now and don’t want to be alone for the rest of my life.
I don’t know what to do. I am pretty, smart, and kind but I don’t know what else to do.
Thanks for your comments and your help.
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Dear Veronica,
This is a pretty big question and seeing as you didn’t give us much information we’ll have to cover a lot of ground. We want to start by saying that 36 is still really young. We didn’t meet
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Dating Advice: Are You Stuck On A Schmuck?
This week's dating question comes from JT:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
To my delight, I have already been doing all the things you mention in your trainings to bring in the "One." Here's my issue though and I would really appreciate some concrete instruction of what to do about it. My heart is still stuck on my ex husband!
Tragic I know. I'm a capable, strong, open, generous, beautiful 52-year old woman, but this man is still on my mind, daily. I am ready for new love but something keeps pulling me back.
He used my heart as a punching bag (toward the end of our 22 years). I could list dozens of reasons that he is bad for me, but I still love him. It's not
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