This week's question comes from Anne:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I love your weekly emails!! I look forward to them every Monday.
I am in the early stages of a relationship (one month to be exact). I am practicing being the "receiver" and allowing him to do the pursuing. So far everything is going well. My question is this - with Christmas next week, what is the protocol for the woman in a new relationship? He has not invited me out yet to celebrate the holidays, but assuming he does, do you think it would be appropriate to give him a friendly card (not lovey-dovey) and maybe a small box of chocolates?
I tend to "over-give" in my relationships and am cognizant of not
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Creating Love on Purpose Blog
How Do I Love Myself More?
This week's question comes from Shannon:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I have been working 7 days a week and have just taken the time to go through over 6000 emails. I read your Love Notes Weekly for this week and it stopped me in my tracks.
I am 47 and have been married for almost 6 years. (My 3rd marriage) I'm super embarrassed to tell you that my husband and I have not been intimate for almost 7 years. We live as roommates.
How do I "Be more kind with myself and love myself as I desire to receive love"?
Thank you in advance,
Shannon
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Dear Shannon,
Unfortunately, it sounds like you might be on your way to becoming part of a very
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Is Your Cup Empty or Overflowing?
Dating Advice
Who should consider an Inner Child Date™?
Anyone who may be feeling burnt out, stuck, stagnant, resentful of responsibilities, blocked creatively, time challenged, over-worked, over-burdened, and/or stressed out to name a few.
We are all creative beings. We are all powerful beings. Our power is great! We can use that power to create or destroy.
Our number one priority is to take care of ourselves. We must fill our own cup to overflowing and then serve from the saucer. We take care of others from our overflow. Service is its own reward. When we let others drink from our cup, or we allow our cup to dry out we will get resentful.
It is imperative
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Should love feel exciting?
This week's question comes from Heather:
Dear Orna and Matthew,
You have talked about the subconscious seeking what is familiar whether good or bad...
I get that. What I don't understand is how that translates into something "EXCITING" ie : "This is familiar, this is familiar!" How is something familiar... exciting?
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Dear Heather,
Thank you for your question. We see how this can be confusing. The simple answer is that the only difference between fear and excitement is the inner dialog we are having about the experience. When we experience either fear or excitement, we have the same physical reaction. Our heart rate increases, our breath
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Should I date men with kids?
This week's question comes from Kris:
"Hello Orna and Matthew,
I've long admired your column here and the on point dating advice! Which brings me to the following question...
For some time, I had been in a committed relationship with a man who didn't have/didn't want kids. That was fine with me because I've chosen to not have kids either.
Now that that relationship is over and I'm dating again, I've been meeting divorced men who do have children. That's fine, but I also need to be a priority in my (future) boyfriend's life. For example, I had two phone calls with a man who has young daughters. The conversation was entirely about his children, and he asked me
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Should I wait for him to contact me?
This week's question comes from Mara:
"My high school sweetheart & I recently started dating again. I never fell out of love with him and it's really wonderful to have him back in my life. He was my "one that got away" & "the love of my life" so that he's back in my life after 10+ years apart & we're going on dates again is pretty amazing.
The reason we broke up the first time, about a month before we left for college, was he didn't have enough time for me. Now we've had three amazing dates & in theory, we're supposed to go on a lunch date sometime this week & meet up in the evening sometime next week, but he hasn't called to lock down which day(s)
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