When you feel like the rug has been pulled out from under you because the relationship you thought would stand the test of time – didn’t – here’s how to get over a breakup and turn the heartbreaker into just someone you used to know. Trust us, it’s better than opening another pint of ice cream and scrolling through your ex’s social media.
Falling in love is the easy part of a relationship. It doesn’t matter if you’ve been with someone for 3 months, 3 years, or 3 decades, getting over a breakup is hard. For some people, the pain is so intense it’s physical.
Heartbreak can feel like it is the end of the world, so it’s important to remind your brain that the world will
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Blocks to Love
Why Do I Attract Married Men? Is There A Way To Repel Them So They Stop Wasting My Time?
This week’s question comes from Patricia:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I hope you can help me break this pattern I seem stuck in. Why do I attract married men? There must be a way to repel them, so they stop wasting my time.
I must confess, when I was younger, I was the other woman in a few relationships, and I feel terrible about it. So, I swore off married men and promised myself that I wouldn’t be part of that kind of situation ever again. I truly want to be in a real relationship.
Six months ago, I met a great guy and we hit it off right away. I had such a strong attraction to him and I thought I’d finally found The One. Then I discovered that he’s married. Of
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Why Did I Push A Nice Guy Away?
This week's question comes from Denise:
"Please help me. I’m afraid I acted crazy and pushed him away.
I was dating a man two months ago that broke up with me because I just wasn't spending enough time with him. After the first date he emailed me and told me he stayed awake all night thinking of me and he really thought I was the one. He gave me a dozen red roses on our next date, called me beautiful, sweetie, and baby. I told him he needed to slow down, asked him to stop calling me these names every second and kept thinking I just was not used to a nice guy.
My gut said something was not right, but I tried. He would text me 20 times a day during work, would fly
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5 Reasons Why Soulmate Relationships Are Difficult
This week's question comes from Tamar:
“Hi Orna and Matthew,
I hope you can help me figure out why soulmate relationships are difficult. It seems that whenever I have a great connection with a man I am easily triggered, and I overthink everything.
Being in my 40s I’ve been around the block; I know relationships take work. I just wonder why the deeper the connection the more I seem off-kilter. Perhaps I should be with a completely different kind of guy than I think…?
Curious about your thoughts on this. I am a long-time reader of your blog.”
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Hi Tamar,
Thank you for asking this common quandary: why are Soulmate relationships difficult. Yes, it’s true
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Why Is Love So Hard To Find? How Getting Over Unrequited Love Can Change Your Love Life For Good
This week's question comes from Jen:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I have a question about getting over unrequited love. You see, I met my soulmate a couple of years ago. I knew it the moment I met him. It was like my soul had opened up and I finally knew what love could be.
The problem is he didn’t feel the same way. I don’t really understand how that could be possible. He told me that he had never felt so comfortable with anyone before. Our connection was so strong.
He met someone else, and I heard through a friend that he is engaged. I feel devastated. It’s like my heart is being crushed. How could I meet my soulmate and he not feel the same way as me?
I don’t
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7 Reasons Why You Feel Emotionally Distant From The Guy You’re Dating And What It Means For Your Future With Him
One of the best parts of the early stage of dating is discovering each other and creating emotional connection and intimacy. Opening your heart to someone new has so much hope and possibility for what you can create together. But what if you start to feel emotionally distant or emotionally detached from the guy you’re dating?
Does feeling emotionally detached mean that the relationship is doomed, or can the two of you rekindle the connection?
Many things can cause you to feel emotionally distant from your guy. Life has a way of intruding on your love story. You can get busy with work or have family issues come up. Perhaps it’s been difficult for the two of you to
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