This week's question comes from Jill:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I would love your insights on my situation. At work I’m the boss. I manage a fairly large team and there is a guy I find attractive who works for the company, but does not report directly to me.
He seems interested in me, and even though I wouldn’t describe him as shy he hasn’t yet made a move. I know he’s single. I’ve read and studied about masculine/feminine dynamics and I am really clear that I want a man to lead in a relationship.
How do I do something (if anything) to see if there is something there for me with my co-worker?
Hoping for a connection."
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Hi Jill,
Thank you for
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Dating from the C-Suite
Do Smart Women Suffer More In Love?
This week's question comes from Rachel:
"Hi O&M,
I love your emails and work; I have been on your list for years. I enjoy watching you two interact with one another. I know I’m a smart woman, perhaps too smart for my own good.
I find I’m always questioning my choices in men. I’m constantly wondering if he is the right guy for me or not. So what happens is that I get overly critical and nitpicky looking for mistakes. And yet I know deep down that I don’t want to settle for just okay. I want the real deal.
I really hate that I get so judgey with the men I’m dating and I can’t seem to break the pattern!
I like that I have a brain and yet I feel like my
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Does being a perfectionist keep me from love?
This week's question comes from Danielle:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
You two are the cutest couple and I wait every Monday to read your newsletter. You have best dating advice for women. So here’s my question…
I’m a pretty A-Type personality kind of woman. I know this about myself. I love my career, my kids are mostly grown and don’t need me as much.
I have no trouble getting dates, that’s not an issue. I get asked out all the time, I know how to flirt; I’ve learned to let the man lead – not something I’m completely comfortable with yet.
The problem for me is that once I’m in a relationship it doesn’t last past 6-8 months. I know I have high standards for
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Does Being Too Masculine Limit My Success In Love?
This week's question comes from Joanie:
Dear Orna and Matthew,
I am a highly educated woman and I work mostly with men as I am an engineer. I have spent the majority of my adult life really working hard to establish myself in a field ruled by men, and I’ve been very successful in that part of my life.
Now that I’ve been reading your emails and watching your videos I’m starting to understand why I haven’t been able to maintain a great love relationship. I guess you could say I have overly-developed my masculine side at the expense of my feminine.
When you speak about feminine energy being receptive I must be honest, I’m a bit lost. You say that it’s not
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Relationship ready men?
This week's question comes from Loretta:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I’m a very active, fit, professional 49 year old woman. I seem to be attracted to younger men and them to me (I look younger than I am). The problem is they only want sex, and are not looking for a relationship. How can I meet someone I’m attracted to that would be interested in having a long-term relationship?
My longest relationship was for 13 years. He was the love of my life and my children’s father but he passed away in 2000. I remarried and was in that relationship for 10 years, which ended abruptly with him moving to another country.
I have now been single for 5 years. Which I am grateful
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How Many Licks Does It Take…
This week's question comes from Janet:
Hello Orna and Matthew,
I’ve been reading your emails for a couple years now and I guess it’s time that I write you to gain some clarity. I’m highly educated, successful (I work in medical field) – I feel like I have everything in my life that I want… except my guy.
The concept you share about your love imprint has really stuck with me and I have really thought deeply about where I’m at and I just can’t seem to get a grasp on what my blocks are.
Recently, I had an ugly break up with a really great guy. I really thought things were going well, he pursued me at the beginning, and it seems that things changed a few
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