This week's questions comes from HollyAnn:
"Hello Orna and Matthew,
Please help!
I’ve been dating for the last 2 years since my divorce and I feel so frustrated with the whole experience.
I always seem to meet men who I date for a couple of months then they unexpectedly break up with me. They seemed to be interested then they disappear. I am never able to form a bond with them. They don’t give it a chance.
Seriously, do MEN ever want anything even close to what women desire? And why don’t men ever try to give women what we need? Women are constantly available emotionally so why are men consistently unavailable and somehow it’s a woman’s fault?
This
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Dating 101
How long to wait before getting engaged?
This week's question comes from Desiree:
"Orna and Matthew,
I’ve been following you two forever it seems. I think you give the best dating advice for women. I’ve been dating a lovely man for about 3 months now and he hasn’t officially proposed… although he’s asking me questions that are letting me know he’s already thinking about it.
The news is everywhere about Pete Davidson and Ariana Grande getting engaged after dating only 3 weeks! Argh!
I know celebrities don’t follow any “rules” and I'm not about to run off and get married. I am curious about what you two think is the right amount of time to wait for a couple to get engaged and start planning a
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How Do I Get Him to Change?
This week's question comes from Suzanne:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I am a faithful reader of all your information you send out and follow all your advice. I have read The Soulmate Shortcut™ several times. So here is my situation in a nutshell.
I am 51 years old divorced 8 years was married for 27. I have had a best male friend my whole life since we were 15 years old. We have been each other’s rock and constant through out life. Dated in high school, college, after college, right after our divorces, and are presently now. We have always had a strong bond and connection with each other like no one else in our lives. The connection is there physically, spiritually, and
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How Do I Get My Expectations Met?
This week's question comes from Tiffany:
Hey Orna and Matthew, I have a quick question about expectations. I know that one should have a "no expectations" attitude towards those they love (family, friends, partners, etc.), but how do you distinguish expectations from standards and requirements?
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Dear Tiffany,
Great question! Let's just get right to it. Expectations are desires that are not expressed. We expect our man to be able to anticipate our needs. We expect our family to be supportive. We expect our close friends to be there when we need them. And then all of them at one time disappoint us. Expectations are the cause of so much suffering in
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Relationship ready men?
This week's question comes from Loretta:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I’m a very active, fit, professional 49 year old woman. I seem to be attracted to younger men and them to me (I look younger than I am). The problem is they only want sex, and are not looking for a relationship. How can I meet someone I’m attracted to that would be interested in having a long-term relationship?
My longest relationship was for 13 years. He was the love of my life and my children’s father but he passed away in 2000. I remarried and was in that relationship for 10 years, which ended abruptly with him moving to another country.
I have now been single for 5 years. Which I am grateful
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Where Are the Spiritual Men?
This week's question comes from Sarah:
Dear Orna and Matthew,
I've done a lot of personal growth and think it is an important part of who I am in the world. And yet most of the guys I meet (including my ex-husband) are NOT interested in growing and changing. I want to share my life with someone who wants to grow with me! Do guys like that even exist?
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Dear Sarah,
Yes, there are plenty of men who are interested in personal growth. One thing you want to be sure of is that you haven't made the decision that there are not men who are. If you have decided that, then you will continue to find evidence of that being true. It's a funny thing that we really
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