This week's question comes from Mindy:
Dear Orna and Matthew,
I really love the advice that you give and I think I’m stuck and I need your help. You always say that it’s important to select someone for a relationship that you share the same values with and I thought I did that, but it seems I didn’t.
I wrote out a list of the kind of guy I was looking for and within 2 weeks he showed up – even the kind of car that I had written down! It was like magic. Unfortunately, he seemed interested in me for a while, but his interest waned and now I find that I’m feeling anxious, and texting him all the time. Sometimes he’ll take a week to even get back to me.
So how do
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Dating 101
Can I ask him to change?
This week's question comes from Krista:
Dear Orna and Matthew,
Thank you for your wonderful work!
Is it okay to ask someone to change their behavior in a relationship? Is this the same thing as trying to change who someone is? I am confused about whether it's okay to ask for what I want, when it in essence requires the other person to change.
Thank You
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Dear Krista,
What a great question! We hear this from a lot of our clients. “How can I get this man I love to behave differently?”
Well, there is no magic template for getting a person to behave differently. If you discover it, please share it with us… as we would like to use it with some
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HELP! How do I online date?
This week's question comes from Michelle:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
I have been divorced for about 1 1/2 years now, and dated one man (that I met in "real life") for approximately three months - we had amazing chemistry, but he broke it off. I was heartbroken, but now I am pretty much over him.
A couple of months after I quit seeing that guy, I started online dating. I have been at it a little over a year now. I have had a ton of dates (I would estimate approximately 15 - 20 different guys so far) mostly very nice guys with a lot going for them, but I just did not feel chemistry with them. I really try, and I dated a few of them multiple times (one for 1 1/2 months!)
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What if it’s not meant to be?
This week's question comes from Annie:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
I’m really struggling right now and I hope you can help me. I know that I am attracted to unavailable men. I ended my most recent relationship because I constantly wanted more from him… more time, more attention. I want to feel like I am a priority, and well, I didn’t. So now it’s over.
After giving it a good cry and some time, I started online dating again. Nothing happening there either… just feeling icky and I’m really starting to wonder if a great love relationship was just not meant to be for me.
What are your thoughts?
Trying not to lose hope.
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Hi Annie,
Thank you for your
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Single for a long time?
This week's question comes from Veronica:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
I hope you can give me some advice to help me!
I have been single and without a relationship for the last 8 years (since my divorce).
Sometimes I really feel alone and it is getting sad. :( I am 36 now and don’t want to be alone for the rest of my life.
I don’t know what to do. I am pretty, smart, and kind but I don’t know what else to do.
Thanks for your comments and your help.
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Dear Veronica,
This is a pretty big question and seeing as you didn’t give us much information we’ll have to cover a lot of ground. We want to start by saying that 36 is still really young. We didn’t meet
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Ready to date again?
This week's question comes from Anna:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
I really value your help and insight about dating and relationships.
I left an unhappy relationship last summer. Since then, I've started to work on MY job, health, and happiness, but I still have a ways to go in improving those things.
Here is my question: How do I know when I'm ready to date again?
Thanks!
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Dear Anna,
Thanks for reaching out to us! We’re glad to hear that you are focusing on YOU and not immediately rushing into another relationship.
So many women seek to avoid their negative feelings by rushing into another relationship after a break-up. It is important to take time
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