This week's question comes from Robin:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I am so tired of dating! I’ve been divorced for 10 years and dating for the last 6 or so and I can’t find any quality men. They are either bitter from their divorces, they don’t want to actually be in a relationship, or they’re just emotionally unavailable.
Where are all the conscious men who are actually looking for love that you talk about? I only seem to meet the losers!
The problem is I really want to find a good man. I dream of living my life with my soulmate and I yearn to find a man who wants what I want. I’m getting frustrated and some days just want to give up.
Please
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Dating 101
How do I recreate my love life?
This week's question comes from Kate:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I am reaching out to you because I love how you give straight up answers every single week to all the people who write to you. I really think you give the best dating advice for people who want soul level love, like me!
I really want an authentic connection with someone who really gets me, and yet that is not at all what I find out in the world. I’ve been divorced and dating for the last 5 years and it seems like I end up with guys who show up at the beginning and then they just disappear, or they tell me they’re not looking for a relationship. I’m feeling really frustrated with dating in general and I
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Dating 911 – I deselect everyone!
This week's question comes from Nancy:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
Calling Dating 911…. Help me put out this fire… that is burning a hole in my heart.
How do I stop this constant screening in my mind of a guy the minute I see a guy flirt or take an interest in me? I think this tearing people apart the minute I see someone or something happening that I don’t like is hurting my chances for great guys to get into my world or me in theirs.
Honestly, I just want a great guy BUT, I scrutinize the heck out of anyone as my time is too valuable to be hanging with the takers, mushers, needy and lesser, etc.
MY QUALITY TIME IS THE MOST INVALUABLE ASSET more than anything
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Do I ask him out? Part II
This week's question comes from Tali:
"Hi Orna and Matthew
Thanks for all the great work you do! I've bought a few of your programs and love them!!
My question is stemming from your recent response to Joyce's question that you answered last week.
I understand the dynamics of feminine and masculine energy, and you mentioned “stay in the energy (the one you choose/prefer) during the dating process.”
The guy I'm dating has asked me to be exclusive but does that mean now I can be a bit more in my masculine? (I'm wondering what you meant by stay in your specific energy ONLY during the dating process and once you’re in a committed relationship you can shift a
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Do I ask him out?
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I really think you two are so adorable together and that you give the best dating advice. I’m curious what you’ll think about my situation…
I know this guy and I really like him. I have a membership to the museum in our town and I know he used to, but he gave up his membership. There’s a new exhibit and I am wondering if I should invite him because I have the tickets.
What do you think?"
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Hi Joyce,
Thank you for asking us what we think of you asking this guy out. You let us know that you like him… but not much else.
We are curious about the kind of relationship you want.
When you think about how you would like your intimate
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I know he is not right for me
This week's question comes from Marni:
"Dearest Orna and Matthew,
How can I shift/release/realign the incredibly painful belief that I am not wanted? I can't believe the pain I feel over this again…
I find that I am deeply triggered by a guy I KNOW IS NOT RIGHT FOR ME when I found out he’s in touch with other women… what makes this even worse is that we are just friends.
Huge appreciation for your dating advice."
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Hi Marni,
We feel for your aching heart and we want you to know that the charge you have on this guy is not because he is “The One” for you. Your Beloved will be available for you, he will choose you, and he will pursue you.
The world
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