This week's question comes from Brenda:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I’ve been reading your newsletter for a while and I hear what you are saying about working on love and I’m skeptical. Won’t I just meet the right guy? Won't things just work out for me when I meet him?
That’s how it’s worked for most of my friends. They were single, or struggling, until they met Mr. Right. So I’m a bit confused what you mean about love strategies… would you please clarify? I am 37 and I really do want to share my life with someone and so far that hasn’t worked for me. I don’t see any patterns, all the guys I’ve dated are all very different.
Can you help me?"
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Dating 101
Identify A Relationship Ready Man
This week's question comes from Virginia:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
What is the most telling indication---going in---that let's you know a man is sincere and coming from a "relationship" sort of place in life?"
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Dear Virginia,
Thank you for your very direct question. However, you cannot know “going in” whether anyone is sincere about wanting a relationship. There aren’t any secret signs that signal one man is more relationship ready than another. You’ll actually have to spend some time getting to know him to see what his intentions are.
There are, however, signs you can look for while you’re dating him (and hopefully other men as well) to know what he
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What Is A “Quality” Man?
This week's question comes from Janet:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
Thank you so much for all that you do for all us struggling out here… I think you give the best dating advice, so that’s why I’m coming to you. After my divorce I took some time to figure out what I want in a relationship and particularly a man however whenever I go out I can’t seem to find a quality man.
I know I’m a “catch” but I cannot seem to find a man who comes anywhere close to what I’m looking for.
Please help me."
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Hi Janet,
Thank you for your question and we’ll do the best we can to answer it for you. We are a bit perplexed by this label “Quality Man”…. We are wondering where
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When am I ready to date?
This week's question comes from Laura:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I hope you can help me with a difficult situation.
I am starting a different career. I am tired, stressed, kind of needy, and don't feel at my best, although I do have "highs" and "lows." I don't know when it will go away. I have men still interested in me, but I don't want to date them because this isn't the "best me" yet. But I am torn as I would LOVE the opportunity for them to encourage me and talk to me – celebrate with me and cheer me up when needed, etc.
I have heard many different things – that if you wait until your life is "perfect" you'll never start, etc.
I love your programs
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How long should I wait?
This week's question comes from Rebecca:
"Hello Orna and Matthew,
Thanks in advance for taking my question! I believe that I've met my soulmate but I feel confused about whether he's a romantic soulmate or a friend soulmate. We both feel a strong, unique, and romantic connection with one another but when we dated for a couple months last year it just didn't work.
This summer we spent more time together (not being physical at all) and agreed that we both really enjoyed it but when I express what I want (a deep relationship and partnership with someone) he continues to say he doesn't want to be in a romantic relationship with anyone right now. When we're both open
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I’m ready, where is he?
This week's question comes from Carrie:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
After years of bad relationships (including an ugly divorce in my 20's), I just decided one day to stop the madness! And I took some time for myself and really stopped dating. Now, I've been single for several years and I feel good on my own, really good. I don't need someone to complete me or anything like that. I've taken some time to check in with myself and keep asking myself what do I want and I DO want to share my life with someone. I've done everything I can think of in terms of working on myself and my guy is still not here. What am I supposed to do? I'm not impatient but I keep wondering where is
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