This week's question comes from Tiffany:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
First let me say I praise God for you both each day! I recently ended a relationship because it had been over, coincidentally I immediately got into another relationship with another man I care a great deal about. He also has just ended an abusive relationship (she was violent, I've seen this for myself). We have both become so connected but he's decided he must take some time to figure out what he wants. I believe that's true and fair, I'm giving him space. He still is very much intertwined with his ex and I am wondering if I should continue to hope, also should I completely not contact, allowing him to
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Dating 101
My boyfriend smokes too much pot
This week's question comes from Terri:
"Hello Orna and Matthew,
I've been dating this guy for about 5 months and for the most part it has been really great. He's really sweet and we talk a lot and I'm really attracted to him. I want it to work out. It's just that he smokes a lot of pot and I don't. I've never really been into it. I don't even drink that much. One drink and I'm pretty much done for the night. He told me he's been smoking for years and it isn't a problem. He's got a great job and makes good money so it's not he's a useless stoner. But, he smokes pretty regularly - at least 5 to 6 times a week. I have asked him to quit numerous times, but he insists that
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Can I find love over 50?
This week's question comes from Patricia:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
Do you think a woman of my age, which is 57, can find true love? I am not one to go on the internet to find it.
Patricia"
Dear Patricia,
We picked your question this week because in 2 short sentences you described exactly why you will find it difficult to create the love you want. Let’s break it down so everyone can understand.
In the first sentence you mention your age – as if love discriminates. Sure it can seem that love comes easier to the young. More of them are single. Most of them aren’t damaged from past bad relationships. More of them are willing to “hook up” without conditions
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Lonely man looking for a date…
This week's question comes from Victor:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I have a question.
I'm a 50 year-old male and becoming more and withdrawn moving further and further away from dating. Only last week, I had set up a date only to cancel. It's been years since I've been in a relationship with a woman.
At the rate I'm going, I'm clearly not going to get to married and yet there is certainly a side of me that wants to connect, although I'm moving in the complete opposite direction. I'm just so not sure that I'm cut out for marriage, which would be a huge tragedy.
I am becoming more and more withdrawn from family as well. It's all not good.
I guess I'm wondering
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What if I don’t really love him?
This week's question comes from Angie:
"Hi Orna and Matthew :)
Thank you for the work you're doing. Your Love Notes and your teachings resonate with me so much!!
My question is this - how can you tell the difference between your intuition saying "this isn't it" vs your heart just being closed off to love?
I've been dating my boyfriend now for about a year and a half. I love and care about this person, and he has become like a best friend to me, in that we share (almost) everything with each other, have many common values and interests, and almost every day spend time together. However, from the very first time he approached me, I heard what I think was my
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Is it fear or my intuition?
This week's question comes from Julia:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
Thank you so much for the love on purpose revolution. It is great!
I would like to know if there is anything coming up regarding the difference between fear and intuition. I recently split with a man b/c he called me a few really horrible things (cunt and selfish bitch) when I asked him to talk to me about a conflict we were repeatedly having after being together not quite 2 months. He refused to talk to me after my asking several times and so I told him that I was going to leave the restaurant where we were, which is what prompted him to text me those terrible names. The issue was that he wanted to see
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