This week's question comes from Amber:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
Do dating coaches really work? I am about to turn 40, single, never married. I always thought that I’d just meet the right person and we’d figure it together, but so far that hasn’t happened for me. Lately, I have become curious about dating coaches and life coaches. No one I know has ever hired someone to help them in this way so I’m a bit skeptical. (Maybe my friends haven’t shared with me that they have… that’s certainly a possibility.)
How do I know if I need a dating coach? I rather like that you two call yourselves soulmate coaches because having a mate for life is what I truly want. If I ever get
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Dating 101
11 Reasons Why Dating Coaches Believe You’re Self-Sabotaging Your Chances At Love (Plus How To Fix It Now)
Do you notice that your relationships start out with a great connection, but then fall apart before there is exclusivity? Are you always finding fault with the people you date, deselecting them for superficial reasons, and not letting anyone get too close to you? These could be signs that you’re self-sabotaging your chances for love.
Understanding why this keeps happening and what to do about it are the keys to breaking the pattern of self-sabotaging relationships and creating the long-lasting love you desire.
Self-sabotage is a tricky issue because ultimately it is you that is causing the relationship to fall apart, even when it seems like the problem is the other
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40 Red Flags For Dating Over 40
Dating over 40 can feel very different than it did when you were younger and carefree. While it was easy to connect when most everyone you met was unmarried and looking, now you may find yourself looking for red flags to protect yourself from heartbreak. You may meet more divorcés, or find yourself worrying and wondering why someone has never been married.
Dating doesn’t have to be an obstacle course where you’re constantly hurdling over or attempting to dodge emotional baggage. Showing up with a positive attitude and a curious mindset can keep dating fun and interesting. However, you can’t afford to let attraction be the deciding factor for whether you enter into a
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How Long Should I Wait For Him?
This week's question comes from Suzie:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
The crux of my question is this: How long should I wait for him?
My boyfriend and I have been together for a couple of years and I love him and yet I don’t know if it is ever going to work out. He is still dealing with his ex and working through custody issues with their 7 yr. old son.
They spend a lot of time together (at events for his kid’s school, at parties and gatherings with their friends from their marriage) sometimes it’s like they aren’t even divorced. I feel excluded from his life in many ways.
He says he still cares for her but that they will never get back together because they fight
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11 Ways To Tap Into Your Feminine Energy Before A First Date Or First Meeting
Are you connected to your feminine energy? Or are you so focused on getting things done in your life that dating and finding love are just another task on your to-do list?
Feminine energy somehow got a bad rap over the last few decades. So perhaps you’re unaware of how important it is to tap into your feminine energy before a first date or first meeting. As a heterosexual woman, one who wants to settle down in a romantic relationship with a man, tapping into your feminine energy before you go out on a date, and through the dating process, will speed up your ability to create the soulmate relationship you are looking for.
The truth is, feminine energy is NOT passive.
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9 Powerful Reminders For Your First Date After Divorce
Are you thinking about dating now that your divorce is final? Your first date after divorce doesn’t have to be stressful. It can be the first step towards a new life with someone who is a better match for you.
You may feel apprehensive about getting back into the dating world. Have the rules for dating changed? Do you have to go online or download an app to meet someone? Are you worried about being taken advantage of? Do you have some fear about opening your heart to someone again?
You don’t have to overthink the whole experience. Taking a few commonsense steps and discovering a new approach to dating can make your first date after divorce easy and enjoyable.
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