This week's question comes from Loretta:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I’m a very active, fit, professional 49 year old woman. I seem to be attracted to younger men and them to me (I look younger than I am). The problem is they only want sex, and are not looking for a relationship. How can I meet someone I’m attracted to that would be interested in having a long-term relationship?
My longest relationship was for 13 years. He was the love of my life and my children’s father but he passed away in 2000. I remarried and was in that relationship for 10 years, which ended abruptly with him moving to another country.
I have now been single for 5 years. Which I am grateful
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Dating After Divorce
Where Are the Spiritual Men?
This week's question comes from Sarah:
Dear Orna and Matthew,
I've done a lot of personal growth and think it is an important part of who I am in the world. And yet most of the guys I meet (including my ex-husband) are NOT interested in growing and changing. I want to share my life with someone who wants to grow with me! Do guys like that even exist?
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Dear Sarah,
Yes, there are plenty of men who are interested in personal growth. One thing you want to be sure of is that you haven't made the decision that there are not men who are. If you have decided that, then you will continue to find evidence of that being true. It's a funny thing that we really
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Does IQ Matter?
This week's question comes from JJ:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I am so grateful to you both for your willingness to share your own personal experiences to allow others to learn and grow. I look forward to your Monday newsletters because I know I will find something worthy to ponder and explore in my own life.
I’m struggling with an on-going issue in my current 16-month relationship and hope you can shed some light. I was married for 30 years to a man who decided to leave me for a woman he took up with out of the blue. My ex is a highly intelligent guy but something snapped in him at age 51 and he took this other path. I was devastated because I felt we had a very
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How Do I Keep the Faith?
This week's question comes from Jackie:
Dear Orna and Matthew,
I recently came out of a 4-year relationship in which I felt I had so much and in the end I had to walk away from it, as he never came through with his intentions. I believe he had stopped wanting to try and stayed in the relationship for a period of time before we split, waiting for me to make decision. He moved on very quickly which hurt me even more.
I have been spending so much time trying to heal and deal with my grief, I believe the decision was right and that I will love and be loved again but it is so hard when meeting that person appears hard for me and has been so easy for him.
Can
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Too Good to be True?
This week's question comes from Julie:
Dear Orna and Matthew,
I have been getting your emails for several weeks now, and find them very inspirational.
After being hurt, badly, by my ex husband, many years ago, and then again, after a 3 year relationship, which ended a year ago, I have opened up my heart, and taken a leap of faith, in hopes, of finding my real soulmate.
2 months ago, I was browsing through an online dating site, and a picture stopped me in my tracks, the profile, was the most articulated had ever read, and it struck a chord of recognition in my heart. I then tried to contact this man, only to find his profile was taken off, I contacted the
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Why Do I Still Love Him?
This week's question comes from Sally:
Dear Orna & Matthew,
I started reading your emails & posts 2 years ago, and today I still find myself reliving the past everyday.
In March of 2010, I thought I had met the man of my dreams (my supervisor at work). We had a great working relationship for 6 years prior to dating. We talked and laughed everyday.
On March 4, 2010, I asked him if he would like to get together for a drink. He agreed.
For the next 2 years we saw each other everyday, but Sunday. We enjoyed going out and cooking dinner together. He even babysat my granddaughter every Tuesday.
In November of 2012 is when things started falling apart. He
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