This week's question comes from Michelle:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
My heart is so full of gratitude and love for the advice I am receiving from you.
I enjoy reading or listening to them again and again, so insightful and good.
I am 43 and single parent, was married before and now annulled.
I have a question that is bugging my mind. I met a man and fell in so madly in love with him. We became lovers but he broke up with me when he learned I was having a conversation with a guy on Facebook. It has been 5 months after the break up and that time, there was communication, as he wanted us to remain friends. I agreed as the pain was unbearable. Also, I am
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Dating After Divorce
Red Flags?
This week's question comes from Nicola:
"Hello Beautiful People!
I met literally by accident a guy on Tinder he told me that he has been divorced three times and was engaged another time to someone else. I am wondering should I meet him or should I run screaming in the other direction? :)
Thanks so much, regards and blessings."
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Dear Nicola,
Yes, it is important to pay attention to how a man shows up so that you can have a clear picture of who he is. The important question is to know what is actually a red flag and what is not.
When we are coaching our private clients through the dating process we always remind them that the men they are dating do
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What is it costing you?
This week's question comes from Adrienne:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
Thank you for all you do to spread love around the globe and help people find love. I really liked how you answered a question a few weeks ago when the person asked some version of why do women have to change, and what about the men who are blocked from love.
I appreciate you sharing that each person has a journey to love regardless of their gender, and how it’s what we don’t know that ends up blocking us from the love we desire.
I want to know your thoughts on my situation… I’m a woman in my early 50s and I’ve had my share of relationships, and right now I feel like I’m finally coming into my own.
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Getting over divorce…
This week's question comes from Didi:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I really appreciate the advice you give and hope you can help me. I was married for 25 years when my husband asked for a divorce. He said that the passion had left our marriage and that he had met someone else. He wanted to be with her.
I was devastated. It took me years to get over it and I’ve been dating regularly for the last year and a half. This is my problem, I just can’t stop thinking about my ex-husband. He was my first and only love, my soulmate. When I’m on a date I can’t help but compare how I feel to how I felt when I met my ex. And no man seems to measure up.
I know it doesn’t make
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What If I Don’t Like Dating?
This week's question comes from Christina:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
I am approaching 45 and starting to really worry that I won’t ever meet “The One.” I’m divorced and to be honest, I do not like to date. I’ve been a serial monogamist my whole life and I feel like dating is something that feels superficial and icky.
Is there hope for me? How do I change the way I feel about going on dates? Or is there another way?
Doing my best to be hopeful!
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Hi Christina,
Thank you for your direct question and for asking for our advice. The truth is that dating is a tool that can be used efficiently if you know how to use the tool. This is true of online and offline
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Are you creating disconnection?
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I’m hoping you can help me because I’m not sure what I’m doing wrong. I picked you two because I think you give the best dating advice for women – I’ve read ALL the other blogs. I also like that I get a point of view from each of you.
So here’s where things went wrong…
I met a guy online who lives in another state and after about a month of “Skype Dates” he flew to meet me over a weekend.
The really weird part is that the first night we were out, after having a great time dancing together we stopped into a bar and my ex was there with his wife. I’m over him… but it really through me for a loop.
It was late, we decided to leave and as I
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