Hi Orna and Matthew,
I read your emails regularly, your wisdom is evident, but I rarely see anything that quite relates to my situation....
My husband of 30 years left me 4 years ago. We tried Counseling for 6 months and whilst the Counselor was very positive about our relationship, my husband said he didn't want to save our marriage, and he moved out.
I discovered later that he had been having an affair for almost a year before then - although he has never admitted it to me and pretends he lives alone.
Whilst this all seems pretty normal and too common, things are not quite that straightforward.
We have a business together and still work together every
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Dating After Divorce
You are the common denominator…
This week's question comes from Andrea:
"Orna and Matthew,
Thank you for all that you do to help those dating after divorce get back out in the world and date. I’ve been single for the last five years and although I’ve had plenty of interesting experiences with men, I haven’t found my soulmate.
I really want to spend my life with “my man,” I just don’t know why I am having such a hard time finding him. I’m 47 and I’m in great shape. I’m successful in my life and I everyone I know would refer to me as “a catch!”
I really want to know what is in my way and so I’ve been looking through my past relationships and I cannot seem to find what you refer to as The
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How do I recreate my love life?
This week's question comes from Kate:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I am reaching out to you because I love how you give straight up answers every single week to all the people who write to you. I really think you give the best dating advice for people who want soul level love, like me!
I really want an authentic connection with someone who really gets me, and yet that is not at all what I find out in the world. I’ve been divorced and dating for the last 5 years and it seems like I end up with guys who show up at the beginning and then they just disappear, or they tell me they’re not looking for a relationship. I’m feeling really frustrated with dating in general and I
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Why can’t I let him go?
This week's question comes from Melanie:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I really hope you can help me. I dated a man for 3 years who I really liked at the beginning. He was kind and affectionate and loving and I felt such an intense attraction to. However, as the years went on I discovered that he was emotionally unavailable. He would constantly blame me and avoid any responsibility for his behavior. I felt like he wanted to punish me by withholding love from me.
The problem is this. We broke up about 6 months ago but I can’t stop thinking about him. I know that he is not good for me but my heart keeps pulling me back.
How do I get over him? I’m exhausted and I want to
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Do I ask him out? Part II
This week's question comes from Tali:
"Hi Orna and Matthew
Thanks for all the great work you do! I've bought a few of your programs and love them!!
My question is stemming from your recent response to Joyce's question that you answered last week.
I understand the dynamics of feminine and masculine energy, and you mentioned “stay in the energy (the one you choose/prefer) during the dating process.”
The guy I'm dating has asked me to be exclusive but does that mean now I can be a bit more in my masculine? (I'm wondering what you meant by stay in your specific energy ONLY during the dating process and once you’re in a committed relationship you can shift a
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How do I start dating again?
This week's question comes from Nickie:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I really need the best dating advice to help me with this situation. I hope you can help.
I have been out of a long-term relationship for about 3 months though it was over about a year before. I know it is over and see why it could not work with us. A couple of nights ago friends introduced me to a man who seemed completely into me and we just clicked and he was so easy to talk to. The problem is we had such a great time and after a little too much alcohol we got intimate. Have I completely ruined the chance of a possible relationship? Will he never respect me? And if he does call how can I change this
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