This week's question comes from Carrie:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
After years of bad relationships (including an ugly divorce in my 20's), I just decided one day to stop the madness! And I took some time for myself and really stopped dating. Now, I've been single for several years and I feel good on my own, really good. I don't need someone to complete me or anything like that. I've taken some time to check in with myself and keep asking myself what do I want and I DO want to share my life with someone. I've done everything I can think of in terms of working on myself and my guy is still not here. What am I supposed to do? I'm not impatient but I keep wondering where is
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Dating After Divorce
How Do I Let Go of Fear of Abandonment?
This week's question comes from V:
"Hi Orna & Matthew! I'm pretty new to Love On Purpose but I really appreciate your Love Notes Weekly! I've been divorced over 2 years and have been dating the same guy for about 7 months; someone who is spiritual and completely different than my ex. (He's truly a good man. I do realize not all men will up and leave in a relationship.) I rode my roller coaster ride of emotions after my ex left and thought I was doing really well and moving on with my life and started dating again. Recently I found out that I have abandonment issues, which in turn caused me to also have jealousy issues. My ex-husband up and left me
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How do I get him to commit?
This week's question comes from Angel
"Hi Orna & Matthew,
Really enjoying listening to the Love on Purpose Revolution. I would like your advice on something bugging me in my otherwise lovely relationship of one year and 7 months with my boyfriend.
Although he always tells me he loves me and does nice things for me and we spend weekends together and are very compatible. He never makes plans about a future together; he has some concerts and days out arranged for us, I have met his parents and grown up children and slowly introducing me to some of his friends - but we don't socialize with them, and there has been some opportunities to do so. His granddaughter
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No longer yearning, now what?
This week's question comes from Nilla
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I receive your inspiring newsletters & every so often think seriously about not only why I am still single, 16 years now, but more importantly why I do not even attract or meet anyone!
Briefly, my background is: Married for 18 years, with 2 wonderful daughters. Then was in a relationship for 12 years, totally head over heels in love with my soul mate, and apparently he felt the same... then things became complicated with his children & ex wife.
Everyone has advice, where to go to meet single men, online etc, but it all feels unnatural. Have met lots of inappropriate matches.
For a long time
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Why am I stuck and still alone?
This week's question comes from Eileen
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
Thanks much for your Love On Purpose Revolution®. I am learning some great tips. But frankly, I am tired of seeking, I feel incapable of really getting it, when I try to use the advice it feels unnatural and contrived, even manipulative, and I am feeling hopeless.
I am 7th of 11 children, while it was fun with all those siblings, my parents were busy and unavailable emotionally. I was married for 20 years, with 2 girls, but communication was not great and it got abusive at the end.
I have been on a spiritual path since then, another 20 years now. I tried everything, The Work, Now, Dyer, Secret, ACIM,
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How do I get out of my masculine to let a man in?
This week's question comes from Maggie
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
A couple of years ago I met a lovely man who I managed to turn into a similar version of all the other men I met, I am very much in my masculine, had a bad abusive relationship with my dad, tried my hardest to be the opposite of everything he wanted of me to defy him and turned into the perfect woman with totally male perspective, I raced motorbikes, did a physical man’s job, etc. everything, but I still attracted men, as I am attractive physically etc. But always ended up with the loser who couldn't look after himself and ended up being nasty and critical to me, because I had basically emasculated him by
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