How much time have you spent on a man who wasn’t truly interested in a long-term relationship? Did you find yourself making excuses for his behavior? Or compromising and giving up on what you really want as an attempt to make things work out? Are you wondering how to know if a man loves you and is an ideal match for you so you don’t make the same mistakes again?
Putting more time into a mismatched relationship isn’t suddenly going to make things all better. Stop wasting your time with men who are not a match for you, who aren’t worthy of your love.
You deserve to have soul-satisfying, long-lasting love with a man who cherishes you and treats you with respect. Would
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Dating After Divorce
What Does It Mean When You Dream About Someone You Used To Love?
Sleeping brings many benefits to your mind and body; even dreaming is an essential part of your well-being. Dreams can bring you insights about a current situation in your life and also help you to process difficult emotions. Paying attention to your dreams and allowing them to guide you can help you through challenging times in your life. But what does it mean when you dream about someone you used to love?
Dreaming about an ex can be very upsetting. Is it an omen? Are the two of you supposed to get back together? And what does this mean if you are happy in your current relationship?
Instead of spending days wondering what it means when you dream about someone you
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Will I Ever Find Love Again?
This week's question comes from Naomi:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
Will I ever find love again?
I hope you can help me. I’ve been a long time reader and really think you give great advice. I have been feeling a lot of despair lately with the state of the world. Dating really scares me and I’m not sure where to get started. I married young and he passed unexpectedly in an accident several years ago. I have been alone since and haven’t dated anyone seriously.
As a single mom, I often wonder if any man would ever be interested in me, as I have to put my children first.
What are your thoughts? Do you think that people get a second chance at love?"
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7 Ways That Being A Cynical Person Is Keeping You Single
It’s been said that inside every cynical person is a disappointed romantic. It’s okay to be suspect if you have reason to be, but what if that cynicism is keeping you single?
Everyone has had disappointments in life. Not every relationship works out the way you wanted it to. But that doesn’t mean that you have to become cynical about life and love.
If you’re a disappointed romantic and finding it difficult to reconcile your own desire to share your life with someone alongside the experiences you’ve had that broke your heart, it’s time to take a look at how your own self-fulfilling prophecy is keeping you from the one thing you desire most of all – someone to share
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Tired Of Being Lonely And Alone For The Holidays?
This week's question comes from Lily
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I am so tired of being lonely and alone and with the Holidays coming up I don’t know what to do.
This time of year is a really hard time for me. My husband filed for divorce just before Christmas 8 years ago and I can’t forgive him for ruining this time for me. He said he felt like I didn’t give him any space to be himself – I made more money than him and he was always resentful of that.
We didn’t have any children so I can’t make the holidays about them. We got married in our early 20’s and now it feels like time is running out for me. Lately, I find myself avoiding my family as much as possible. I’m
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If You’re Tired Of Being Lonely But Don’t Want Another Bad Relationship, Here’s What You Need To Do
There is nothing worse than feeling tired of being lonely and yet afraid you’ll make the same mistakes if you get into a relationship again. It feels like you are stuck between a rock and a hard place – part of you longing for love and another part afraid you’ll make the same mistakes again.
We call this situation being stuck in a double bind. Two parts inside of you want what appears to be opposing things and these two parts are at a standoff. It's like you are arm-wrestling yourself and each part is equally strong, so you never get anywhere – you’re just stuck.
If you stay stuck too long then you’ll end up unmotivated and ambivalent about ever creating love. Your
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