This week's question comes from JJ:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I am so grateful to you both for your willingness to share your own personal experiences to allow others to learn and grow. I look forward to your Monday newsletters because I know I will find something worthy to ponder and explore in my own life.
I’m struggling with an on-going issue in my current 16-month relationship and hope you can shed some light. I was married for 30 years to a man who decided to leave me for a woman he took up with out of the blue. My ex is a highly intelligent guy but something snapped in him at age 51 and he took this other path. I was devastated because I felt we had a very
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Dating from the C-Suite
What about my freedom?
This week's question comes from Olivia:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I don’t think I fit into your usual advice seekers. I’m an independent woman who has travelled and worked around the world. I’ve never had a problem meeting men and have had many wonderful lovers. The problem is they fall in love with me and I don’t initially start out thinking I will break their hearts, but inevitably I do.
I do want to find my soulmate, but it seems impossible to find a man who has the freedom to travel the world with me and who I want to marry.
Can I keep my freedom and find my “One?” I don’t know. It doesn’t seem possible to me. I’ve met some wonderful men who were perfect at
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Is long-lasting love in the cards for me?
This week's question comes from Anna
"Orna and Matthew,
Thank you for your Love Notes. I hope you can help me.
I’m in my mid-40s and I’m starting to think that a great relationship is not in the cards for me…
I was married briefly in my 20’s, but that was just foolish young love. We broke it off after less than a year. Since then, I’ve struggled to find a man who is willing or able to commit to me. Honestly, I’ve put most of my energy into my career the last 15 years.
Because of that, I’ve been successful, but it has been at the expense of my personal relationships. I have great friends, however, I really struggle when it comes to allowing a man to get close
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Do I intimidate men?
This week's question comes from Debi:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
I have been following the two of you for a very long time and I just love seeing how you relate to each other. It’s obvious how much you love each other and I think you’re such a great example of a loving couple.
I’m curious about your thoughts about what men want. I hear from all my friends that because I’m a powerful woman that I intimidate men.
It’s clear that Orna is a powerful woman and since here you both are – one man, one woman – I thought I’d ask you if this is true.
I am so tired of doing it all even though I love my job and my kids, it’d be really great to share my life with one special
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Can chemistry change?
This week's question comes from Kimberley:
Orna and Matthew,
I have been reading your weekly Love Notes for a few years now and I think I’m getting clearer on why my marriage did not work, and what I can do differently.
The problem for me is that most men I’m attracted to are much younger than me (by at least a decade and more), and they are players. I know they are not looking for a relationship. The men around my age are nice men, but I just don’t find them attractive.
My dad was a very attractive man who I now know was a womanizer. He wasn’t much for settling down and my parents divorced when I was very young. This must be part of my love blueprint and why
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Why can’t I find someone?
This week's question comes from Claudine:
I enjoy your newsletter every week! I have not been in a relationship in more than ten years and I feel that something is blocking me. I am a 46 year-old professional woman. I have tried asking people to fix me up and dating online. I do have a ten-year old son and I work a lot (during certain times of the year). However, I have been able to make myself available for dating. I look around and say . . . "Everyone can find someone, why can't I?"
I do not have a defeatist attitude normally, but I am starting to feel that maybe it is just not in the cards for me. I do not want to feel that way but it has been such a long time
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