This week's question comes from Anne:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I love your weekly emails!! I look forward to them every Monday.
I am in the early stages of a relationship (one month to be exact). I am practicing being the "receiver" and allowing him to do the pursuing. So far everything is going well. My question is this - with Christmas next week, what is the protocol for the woman in a new relationship? He has not invited me out yet to celebrate the holidays, but assuming he does, do you think it would be appropriate to give him a friendly card (not lovey-dovey) and maybe a small box of chocolates?
I tend to "over-give" in my relationships and am cognizant of not
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How Do I Decide If He Is Right For Me?
This week's question comes from Lisa
"Dear Orna & Matthew,
A couple of years back, I attended one of your live workshops in Santa Monica (won the tickets!). At that time I had recently ended a relationship, and your workshop was very valuable and timely.
Since that time I met a wonderful man. It's now been 9 months, and some definite issues have come up, and I'm struggling to decide whether to continue.
This person has been wonderful to me, warm-hearted and generous, has shown concern for my well-being, wants to see me succeed at my new career path, wants me around him especially when he's with family and friends, has made me feel good about myself and
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How do I get out of my masculine to let a man in?
This week's question comes from Maggie
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
A couple of years ago I met a lovely man who I managed to turn into a similar version of all the other men I met, I am very much in my masculine, had a bad abusive relationship with my dad, tried my hardest to be the opposite of everything he wanted of me to defy him and turned into the perfect woman with totally male perspective, I raced motorbikes, did a physical man’s job, etc. everything, but I still attracted men, as I am attractive physically etc. But always ended up with the loser who couldn't look after himself and ended up being nasty and critical to me, because I had basically emasculated him by
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Should I wait for him to contact me?
This week's question comes from Mara:
"My high school sweetheart & I recently started dating again. I never fell out of love with him and it's really wonderful to have him back in my life. He was my "one that got away" & "the love of my life" so that he's back in my life after 10+ years apart & we're going on dates again is pretty amazing.
The reason we broke up the first time, about a month before we left for college, was he didn't have enough time for me. Now we've had three amazing dates & in theory, we're supposed to go on a lunch date sometime this week & meet up in the evening sometime next week, but he hasn't called to lock down which day(s)
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My boyfriend smokes too much pot
This week's question comes from Terri:
"Hello Orna and Matthew,
I've been dating this guy for about 5 months and for the most part it has been really great. He's really sweet and we talk a lot and I'm really attracted to him. I want it to work out. It's just that he smokes a lot of pot and I don't. I've never really been into it. I don't even drink that much. One drink and I'm pretty much done for the night. He told me he's been smoking for years and it isn't a problem. He's got a great job and makes good money so it's not he's a useless stoner. But, he smokes pretty regularly - at least 5 to 6 times a week. I have asked him to quit numerous times, but he insists that
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Is it fear or my intuition?
This week's question comes from Julia:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
Thank you so much for the love on purpose revolution. It is great!
I would like to know if there is anything coming up regarding the difference between fear and intuition. I recently split with a man b/c he called me a few really horrible things (cunt and selfish bitch) when I asked him to talk to me about a conflict we were repeatedly having after being together not quite 2 months. He refused to talk to me after my asking several times and so I told him that I was going to leave the restaurant where we were, which is what prompted him to text me those terrible names. The issue was that he wanted to see
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