This week's question comes from Lynnie:
Hello Orna and Matthew,
I recently attended Mary Morrissey’s Dream builder live weekend. I am going after my dream this year of finding the man of my dreams who I marry and share a supportive, passionate, and growing relationship with.
Here is the interesting part, the man who frequents my dreams is actually someone who is a good friend, has been for over five years. We hike, bike, and occasionally share a dinner out. This is very random, usually more in the summer due longer days.
I have dated a few men while we have remained friends. I asked about 3 years ago if he was interested in anything more. He was not; he said he
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Get Ready for Love
Can I find lasting love at my age?
This week's question comes from Anonymous:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
First of all a big thank you for what you're doing! I have been following you for some time and you give the best straight-forward advice.
I have a few questions I've been wondering about.
First: I've been doing this work on my own about a year and have grown tremendously and I'm so glad I took this path. However I met somebody (lets say: "Z") last fall but found out that "Z" was taken (I then discovered that my attraction for unattainable people was just my own fear of physical intimacy and the possibility of rejection). I think I'm clear of what I want in love and in relationships. I do
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Spooked on Dating
This week's question comes from Kathy:
Hello Orna and Matthew,
Rhonda Britten would say synchronicity... I am not sure. I have gone to Rhonda's fearless living seminar a year ago at Kripalu, loved it, did her 12 module/week fearless living workshop with a coach, Larissa. So many things have changed for me in the year. I went back again this past weekend.
I open my email this morning, and I have a newsletter from you! I must have gotten on your list somehow through something in my journey this year.
I am working on it, and still working with Larissa. But during this weekend at Kripalu, Rhonda brought up relationships a few times, and she brought up things that
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Terrified of Commitment?
This week's question comes from Kelli:
Hello to you both,
I love reading your Love Notes Weekly - thank you so much to you both for sharing all of your insights!
Here is where I've become stuck in the dating world: after leaving a relationship of 6+ years, I have found myself in a position where I'm not entirely sure what I want. I've become very good at dating a different variety of guys, very good at being open and warm and flirtatious with men, yet when it comes to the point where we need to 'define' our relationship, I've developed a pattern where I then abandon the relationship out of fear.
On the one hand, I think this may be due to myself and the guy not
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Won’t love just happen when I’m ready?
This week's question comes from Monalisa:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
I’m wondering if you think one has to look for love, or it will come when you are ready? Is it like work on yourself so you can allow it to find you, or do you have to actively go out there and look and try things?
I think you give the best dating advice for women and so I’m super curious how you will respond. Please pick my question to answer.
All the best!
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Hi Monalisa,
Thank you for your question – and because you asked us to pick you – we did!
Love does not magically happen when someone is "ready." Just like the dishwasher will not magically fix itself one day, or world peace
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Love at any age – Part II
This week's question comes from Sheila:
Thank you. I know that's the answer yet I just don't know how! That lack of truly understanding how is what cages me in, blocking me from having the self-confidence to be open to the possibility of love. Having been soooo devastated by actions of primary relationship (parents) that it destroyed my marriage. My resentment and inner rage, and the guilt and shame I clothe myself in, keeps me lonely and hungry for love. I want out of my cage into life's freedom.
Thank you for hearing me!
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Hi Sheila,
We know that you didn’t actually send in a traditional question as you responded to one of our recent Love Notes Weekly
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