This week's question comes from Monica:
Orna and Matthew,
I’m really struggling right now… one of my close friends just got engaged. This will leave me as the last single gal in my group who has never been married.
When I look at my friends who are married, I can’t seem to see any similarities in how they got hitched that makes me understand what they did right, and what I’m doing wrong.
One good friend of mine has been married 6 years and well… there’s no other way to put it… she’s kind of a bitch. I cannot believe the way she speaks to her husband. I am shocked that he puts up with it, and when I see how he looks at her – he is clearly IN LOVE!
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Get Ready for Love
7 Years – No Itch!
Hello Love On Purpose Community!
Today is our 7-year wedding anniversary so we decided to mix things up and instead of answering one of your questions today, we decided to share our “secrets” with you.
Often times we are surprised to hear from our friends that they think our relationship is EASY! They want what we have…
The truth is that it was very easy in the beginning. We had both transformed our blocks to love, cultivated discernment through the dating process, and were on the search for an ideal match.
Every relationship needs the SPARK of attraction and that chemical high we call “The Romance Stage” in order to create longevity in relationship. It’s like
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Is it time to just give up?
This week's question comes from Traci:
Hello Orna and Matthew,
Thank you in advance for answering my question. I’ve been struggling with this for a while and don’t know what to do.
I have had a tendency to start relationships with unavailable men, so I am trying to stop that, but is there just a point where you have to give up? When you live in a remote area where you are involved in just about every thing you can be and still have no ability to meet anyone, is it just time to give up?
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Dear Traci,
Thanks for reaching out to us and we hear the desperation that you are feeling. It can be hard when it seems like no matter what you do, you can’t meet
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Why do I fall in love so quickly?
This week's question comes from Emma:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I love reading your notes and believe that you give the best dating advice online. I hope you can help me! I am tired of struggling to find love.
Here is my question:
Why do I fall in love so quickly when I find a man fancies me?
I skip over all the stages of examining if the man is right for me, and dive right into the stage of being in a relationship. And once I am in a relationship, I just get too focused in it, and too ignorant to other parts of my life instantly. I need help."
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Dear Emma,
Thanks for reaching out to us. We want you to know you are not alone. We hear from many
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Have I met my Soulmate?
This week's question comes from Arminda:
Hello Orna and Matthew,
How do you know when you have found your soulmate? Because, I have met a guy who really made my world turn around, but I do not know if I had caused the same feeling on him and I am feeling a bit frustrated, for not getting much of a response from him.
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Dear Arminda,
This is a great question and one we feel very passionate about. Let’s start with the soulmate part. We are of the belief that we don’t have just one soulmate.
Soulmate love is as much a choice as it is fate.
The universe would be a very cruel place to just put one soulmate out of billions here on Earth and expect us to
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What If I Don’t Like Dating?
This week's question comes from Christina:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
I am approaching 45 and starting to really worry that I won’t ever meet “The One.” I’m divorced and to be honest, I do not like to date. I’ve been a serial monogamist my whole life and I feel like dating is something that feels superficial and icky.
Is there hope for me? How do I change the way I feel about going on dates? Or is there another way?
Doing my best to be hopeful!
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Hi Christina,
Thank you for your direct question and for asking for our advice. The truth is that dating is a tool that can be used efficiently if you know how to use the tool. This is true of online and offline
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