This week's question comes from Mindy:
Dear Orna and Matthew,
I really love the advice that you give and I think I’m stuck and I need your help. You always say that it’s important to select someone for a relationship that you share the same values with and I thought I did that, but it seems I didn’t.
I wrote out a list of the kind of guy I was looking for and within 2 weeks he showed up – even the kind of car that I had written down! It was like magic. Unfortunately, he seemed interested in me for a while, but his interest waned and now I find that I’m feeling anxious, and texting him all the time. Sometimes he’ll take a week to even get back to me.
So how do
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Get Ready for Love
How Do I Not Settle?
This week's question comes from Audrey:
Hello Orna and Matthew,
Thank you very much for the video. I love watching the two of you interact. It's truly a pleasure to see and to know that this kind of relationship can be found out there because that's very much what I want.
I’d like your feedback on this because I feel like I’m losing my mind and there are days it's quite upsetting. I have gone on multiple dates (from online sites such as plentyoffish, okcupid, and Tinder), with different guys (4 first dates off POF, 1 of which lead to a 2 week relationship before I quickly broke it off. 5-6 first dates off okcupid with 2 second dates before I decided that we
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Is love only for successful people?
This week's question comes from Nita:
Dear Orna and Matthew,
Thank you so much for your honesty and all the wisdom you're sharing in your newsletter and elsewhere. I've learned so much from you. I have also been doing inner child dates after I saw the idea on your website and they are brilliant!
My question for you is about knowing when you're truly ready to make love a priority in your life. I've done a lot of work on releasing the past and I'm proud to say that I'm now at a place where I have taken responsibility for my past relationship experiences and have released the resentment I have felt toward my ex-partners (after all they only reflected back to me
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How do I get him back?
This week's question comes from Sue:
Dear Orna and Matthew,
I need your help.
We dated for 6 years; we had our ups and downs but always managed to get past them. I noticed his feelings shifting in December. He pulled back a little but we got past that and we're making plans for the up coming months.
Then February 13 out of nowhere he ended things. I tried to get back with him but he seems totally uninterested. Just recently when I reached out he seemed to soften a bit, but still has not made any move to contact or see me.
I'm at a loss. I see him in my future but I do not know what to do, every program says I should not contact him nor should I tell him
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How do I break my pattern?
This week's question comes from Liz:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
I’ve been following you for a few years and I think you have the best dating advice for women.
What I’ve noticed from paying attention to my patterns is that I seem to date two different types of guys: One guy I feel a strong connection with right away and I’m bending over backwards to be available and do things so he likes me, and the other is chasing after me, is nice, but I don’t feel the same spark of chemistry that I do with the other type of guy.
I’ve always thought things would be great if I could just get a guy that I really like to like me back, but so far that’s not how it works out for
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What’s LUCK Got To Do With It?
This week's question comes from Julie:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
I am new to your community and I really love what you say about blocks to love. My question is more along the lines of how people create love... does a person have to be lucky to have it?
When I see people that are in healthy relationships (which is not that often) I find myself thinking how lucky they are. I did that when I first found out about you two… I though you were LUCKY to have found each other.
After listening to you both some more I know you say to pay attention to my inner dialog and this is how I discovered this voice in my head about luck.
What can you tell me about luck and love?
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