Creating Love on Purpose

Where Spiritual, Successful, Single Women Bring In Their Beloved™

WHERE SPIRITUAL, SUCCESSFUL, SINGLE WOMEN BRING IN THEIR BELOVED™

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How do I release the fear of “being found out”?

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This week's question comes from Lissa: Dear Orna and Matthew, I've been following you guys for a few months now and really love your advice. One thing has come up for me recently. I've become aware that I have a fear of "being found out." What I mean is that when I'm in a relationship I have this fear that I will not live up to the expectations of my partner and at some point they will be disappointed in/by me and not love me any more. What can I do to release this fear? Thanks!   Dear Lissa, Thanks for your question. This fear of "being found out" is actually fairly common. Many of us have an underlying belief that we are not worthy of receiving love
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What are the rules of control?

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This week's question comes from Karen: Dear Orna & Matthew, What do you think about a woman calling a man? Then pulling back? I'm in the first month of a really nicely smoothly moving along friendship with a man. Taking things slow. Almost too slow but I'm okay with it. He is 58, I'm 45. Not younguns....want to be smart about this and not push him away as I've done with all my others. I get very eager and want to control. So what is your opinion on texting, phone calls, inviting a man over......I have read the Rules 50,000 times.....and in one night of reading your book I so see where I've done wrong. The rules made me feel like I was being mean, not taking care
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Friends With Benefits?

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This week's question comes from Pauline: Dear Orna and Matthew, I know you give the best dating advice so I hope you can help me… I was dating a man for over 12 months and I often asked him if we were 'ok' as sometimes he was responsive and loving, yet other times, I couldn't even get him to reply to an sms. During the times when he couldn't even look at me when talking, it gave me a reason to feel insecure. A few weeks ago he told me he wasn't 'in love' with me, but had a love for me. We continued seeing each other until Dec 30. I couldn't help but ask how we were and where our relationship was headed, if anywhere. I pretty much pushed him to make a decision i.e.
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Do powerful women intimidate men?

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This week's question comes from Alison: Hello Orna and Matthew,  Recently I had something happen to me that has me perplexed and concerned about my love life. A male friend of mine who I respect gave me some feedback about why I seem to struggle finding quality men.  He said that he thought I was a powerful female and that most men are intimidated by me, including him!  While I am not loud, or a vexation to the spirit, I was shocked to learn that this is how I occur to others as I see myself as very shy especially when not in my comfort zone.  My question now is, 'How do I soften without loosing my ability to speak up when necessary?' --- Hi
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What if I’ve lost my soulmate?

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This week's question comes from Sam: "Hi Orna and Matthew, I hope you can help me. I married my soulmate in 2001 we divorced in 2004 he cheated and I couldn't forget it. It took me years to date again and although I've had some relationships not one of them has fulfilled me and I feel like I've ended up back thinking about my ex husband. He comes into my dreams when I feel sad. The men I meet are takers selfish and unsupportive. Help." --- Hi Sam, We understand you’ve been through a traumatic experience and often these experiences stick with us long after they occur. The truth is we don’t only get ONE soulmate in life. We wouldn’t consider your
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Who will love me if I’m overweight?

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This week's question comes from Deb: "Hi Orna and Matthew, Do you have any suggestions for finding love when you are overweight? I feel like men don't give me an opportunity because of my size. Recently I started going to the gym and I've modified my dietary habits. It's frustrating that appearance seems to be more important than being intelligent or emotionally balanced. Thanks!" --- Dear Deb, Congratulations on taking actions to feel better about yourself! And we think whether you are working out or not, the problem is not your weight. Over the years we’ve helped thousands of women find their Beloved and those women have come in all shapes,
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