This week's question comes from Kari:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I’m writing to you as this year is quickly ending and I’m feeling like I did last year… A year ago I was thinking that the New Year would be the year that I finally change things and connect with my Soulmate – sadly, that didn’t happen… yet again.
Being on my own doesn’t bother me, I love my job, I have great friends and family, I would like to share my life with someone.
Yes there are things that I could be better about with my own self care, going to the gym regularly, going on dates more often, taking some time to do some hobbies that I have pushed aside for one reason or another.
When I start
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Can’t Start A Fire Without A Spark
This week's question comes from Dale:
Hi Orna & Mathew,
I am following your letters and attended a webinar that was awesome. I love the depth of your perspective! So much of the info I see on dating is superficial and geared towards what women should be doing to 'attract' men and keep them. I'm tired of hearing everything from this point of view! What we should be wearing, saying, doing and not doing. I'm interested in figuring out what my response is to the men I'm dating and how to know if I should pursue investing in a relationship or not.
I'm a Coach myself and very aware of the fact that who we are attracted to are not always the right person for us.
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How to end the struggle?
This week's question comes from Valerie:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
I admire you both so much and I love how you share so much about your relationship and how it took a long time for you each to figure things out.
I always question those people who say they never fight, or that it’s easy… it just seems suspect to me. I really appreciate your direct approach in how you answer questions and spell things out.
Currently, I am divorced mom with 2 kids and being a single mom has its challenges all around, a lot of the issue is that I cannot afford to work with you. Does that just mean I’m out of luck? Can I book just 1 session and see how things go?
I would really
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Will being “Nice” attract my soulmate?
This week's question comes from Monica:
Orna and Matthew,
I’m really struggling right now… one of my close friends just got engaged. This will leave me as the last single gal in my group who has never been married.
When I look at my friends who are married, I can’t seem to see any similarities in how they got hitched that makes me understand what they did right, and what I’m doing wrong.
One good friend of mine has been married 6 years and well… there’s no other way to put it… she’s kind of a bitch. I cannot believe the way she speaks to her husband. I am shocked that he puts up with it, and when I see how he looks at her – he is clearly IN LOVE!
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7 Years – No Itch!
Hello Love On Purpose Community!
Today is our 7-year wedding anniversary so we decided to mix things up and instead of answering one of your questions today, we decided to share our “secrets” with you.
Often times we are surprised to hear from our friends that they think our relationship is EASY! They want what we have…
The truth is that it was very easy in the beginning. We had both transformed our blocks to love, cultivated discernment through the dating process, and were on the search for an ideal match.
Every relationship needs the SPARK of attraction and that chemical high we call “The Romance Stage” in order to create longevity in relationship. It’s like
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Is it time to just give up?
This week's question comes from Traci:
Hello Orna and Matthew,
Thank you in advance for answering my question. I’ve been struggling with this for a while and don’t know what to do.
I have had a tendency to start relationships with unavailable men, so I am trying to stop that, but is there just a point where you have to give up? When you live in a remote area where you are involved in just about every thing you can be and still have no ability to meet anyone, is it just time to give up?
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Dear Traci,
Thanks for reaching out to us and we hear the desperation that you are feeling. It can be hard when it seems like no matter what you do, you can’t meet
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