This week's question comes from Alison:
Hello Orna and Matthew,
Recently I had something happen to me that has me perplexed and concerned about my love life. A male friend of mine who I respect gave me some feedback about why I seem to struggle finding quality men.
He said that he thought I was a powerful female and that most men are intimidated by me, including him!
While I am not loud, or a vexation to the spirit, I was shocked to learn that this is how I occur to others as I see myself as very shy especially when not in my comfort zone. My question now is, 'How do I soften without loosing my ability to speak up when necessary?'
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What if I’ve lost my soulmate?
This week's question comes from Sam:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I hope you can help me. I married my soulmate in 2001 we divorced in 2004 he cheated and I couldn't forget it. It took me years to date again and although I've had some relationships not one of them has fulfilled me and I feel like I've ended up back thinking about my ex husband. He comes into my dreams when I feel sad. The men I meet are takers selfish and unsupportive. Help."
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Hi Sam,
We understand you’ve been through a traumatic experience and often these experiences stick with us long after they occur. The truth is we don’t only get ONE soulmate in life.
We wouldn’t consider your
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Who will love me if I’m overweight?
This week's question comes from Deb:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
Do you have any suggestions for finding love when you are overweight? I feel like men don't give me an opportunity because of my size.
Recently I started going to the gym and I've modified my dietary habits. It's frustrating that appearance seems to be more important than being intelligent or emotionally balanced.
Thanks!"
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Dear Deb,
Congratulations on taking actions to feel better about yourself! And we think whether you are working out or not, the problem is not your weight.
Over the years we’ve helped thousands of women find their Beloved and those women have come in all shapes,
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What’s the deal with Soulmates?
This week's question comes from Tina:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
Thank you for your weekly notes, I feel like I learn from you every single week. I’m reaching out because I’m really struggling as I work with a guy that I have a very strong connection with – I feel that we are soulmates. As long as I’ve known him he’s been in a relationship. Working together it’s obvious there is chemistry between us, and we are friends too.
I do my best to be respectful of the fact that he is unavailable. Recently they broke up and I felt myself feeling distant, I just didn’t want to get hurt. Nothing happened between us, I was really torn because I care about him, and I also have
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How do I know when to commit?
This week's question comes from Zoe:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I am a bit puzzled about the dating process. I have just started dating again, after an 18-year relationship. The person I dated twice is a very kind gentleman who likes me very much. I also like him and enjoy his company, although I am reluctant to date any further, as I feel I need to have more dating experiences with other people, given that I am new to the dating world. He has asked me about my likes, dislikes and to see if we are compatible with regards to various activities and I found that in general, I was. I feel that my other hesitation has to do with physical attributes and when he started to grab
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How Do I Create What I Want?
This week's question comes from Natalia:
"Hello Orna and Matthew,
Thank you so much for all the love you have put into The Soulmate Shortcut, your generosity is so apparent in this book.
I will share with you what I found about my Love Imprint:
After going through about 1/3 of your book and reflecting on my life as a little girl it’s clear to me that my father was emotionally unavailable to me and also to my mother.
I think that my Love Imprint is unavailable men that I fear will bring division in my life. Either I don’t exist for them, or they don’t exist for themselves, or he is incompatible with my life. I am afraid that my therapy practice will suffer
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