This week's question comes from Andrea:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
I really love your advice for women who are getting over their divorce. I was finally able to get out of an unhealthy marriage when I discovered my voice and started asking for what I wanted. It turns out he didn’t like that.
I’ve been doing a lot of work on myself and I’ve discovered my pattern but I don’t know what to do from here.
I have a tendency to be a rescuer in my relationships. Because of this I become more involved in my partner's life and I lose myself and what I'm about. Could you please suggest something I can do to avoid this in the future?
Thank you for your insight!
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Topic: Heal Your Heart
When do you say no more?
This week's question comes from Tina:
Hello Orna and Matthew
I am in a 7-year relationship. When we met I was very busy with a new business and to be honest I was not attracted to him. He was persistent and so kind to me. Slowly his kindness started to allure me. The first time he held my hand I felt irritated then I felt I didn't really want him to let my hand go. My attraction to him grew in a way I was not familiar with. I so loved the way he adored me, and there was something I had never experienced, an aroma that I was so drawn to. I wanted to be so close to him.
This has been 7 years of pure confusion. Within a year the man that adored me, started
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What About The List?
This week's question comes from Beth:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
I have a question for you as I’m really starting to see things differently since I started listening to you talk about how to create love.
After my divorce I got really clear on the kind of person I wanted to be in relationship with, I made ‘The List.’ Soon after I met a man who was an exact fit to my list. He even drove the kind of car I had written down!
I was truly amazed that this seemed to work! Exactly the kind of man I described in my list was now in my life and pursuing me for a relationship. After 6 months he proposed and I said ‘Yes!’ I really thought I had things figured out.
During
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What if it’s not meant to be?
This week's question comes from Annie:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
I’m really struggling right now and I hope you can help me. I know that I am attracted to unavailable men. I ended my most recent relationship because I constantly wanted more from him… more time, more attention. I want to feel like I am a priority, and well, I didn’t. So now it’s over.
After giving it a good cry and some time, I started online dating again. Nothing happening there either… just feeling icky and I’m really starting to wonder if a great love relationship was just not meant to be for me.
What are your thoughts?
Trying not to lose hope.
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Hi Annie,
Thank you for your
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Single for a long time?
This week's question comes from Veronica:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
I hope you can give me some advice to help me!
I have been single and without a relationship for the last 8 years (since my divorce).
Sometimes I really feel alone and it is getting sad. :( I am 36 now and don’t want to be alone for the rest of my life.
I don’t know what to do. I am pretty, smart, and kind but I don’t know what else to do.
Thanks for your comments and your help.
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Dear Veronica,
This is a pretty big question and seeing as you didn’t give us much information we’ll have to cover a lot of ground. We want to start by saying that 36 is still really young. We didn’t meet
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Is love only for successful people?
This week's question comes from Nita:
Dear Orna and Matthew,
Thank you so much for your honesty and all the wisdom you're sharing in your newsletter and elsewhere. I've learned so much from you. I have also been doing inner child dates after I saw the idea on your website and they are brilliant!
My question for you is about knowing when you're truly ready to make love a priority in your life. I've done a lot of work on releasing the past and I'm proud to say that I'm now at a place where I have taken responsibility for my past relationship experiences and have released the resentment I have felt toward my ex-partners (after all they only reflected back to me
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