This week's question comes from Sad and Single:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I’m kind of embarrassed to reach out to you two because I am a coach and should be a colleague and yet my secret is that I am not in a relationship…
I know what I’m looking for in a relationship, and even though I’m always helping my own clients call in the one I haven’t been able to do this for myself.
Whew! That was hard to type out… I guess I have a lot of shame because I really believe in the coaching I was trained in and I know it works… it’s worked for a lot of people, but so far, not me.
Can you help me? I feel like I’m really I’m running out of time and that I’m running out of
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Topic: Heal Your Heart
Why can’t I let him go?
This week's question comes from Melanie:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I really hope you can help me. I dated a man for 3 years who I really liked at the beginning. He was kind and affectionate and loving and I felt such an intense attraction to. However, as the years went on I discovered that he was emotionally unavailable. He would constantly blame me and avoid any responsibility for his behavior. I felt like he wanted to punish me by withholding love from me.
The problem is this. We broke up about 6 months ago but I can’t stop thinking about him. I know that he is not good for me but my heart keeps pulling me back.
How do I get over him? I’m exhausted and I want to
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I know he is not right for me
This week's question comes from Marni:
"Dearest Orna and Matthew,
How can I shift/release/realign the incredibly painful belief that I am not wanted? I can't believe the pain I feel over this again…
I find that I am deeply triggered by a guy I KNOW IS NOT RIGHT FOR ME when I found out he’s in touch with other women… what makes this even worse is that we are just friends.
Huge appreciation for your dating advice."
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Hi Marni,
We feel for your aching heart and we want you to know that the charge you have on this guy is not because he is “The One” for you. Your Beloved will be available for you, he will choose you, and he will pursue you.
The world
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What if I’ve lost my soulmate?
This week's question comes from Sam:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I hope you can help me. I married my soulmate in 2001 we divorced in 2004 he cheated and I couldn't forget it. It took me years to date again and although I've had some relationships not one of them has fulfilled me and I feel like I've ended up back thinking about my ex husband. He comes into my dreams when I feel sad. The men I meet are takers selfish and unsupportive. Help."
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Hi Sam,
We understand you’ve been through a traumatic experience and often these experiences stick with us long after they occur. The truth is we don’t only get ONE soulmate in life.
We wouldn’t consider your
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How do I overcome my fear?
This week's question comes from Carol:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I hope you can help me. I’m stuck in fear and don’t know what to do.
I'm in a relationship where we use each other. He uses me as a part time companion whom he'll never marry (he's never been married and never will). I use him because we have a wonderful physical life together and we go out to places and events I enjoy. We do care a great deal for each other though I know I care more for him than he does me.
I have been single and dating in Los Angeles for at least 12 years now. I've met some very nice men where there is just friendship but no physical attraction. I've done the dance scene, the
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How to get rid of Limiting Beliefs?
This week's question comes from Sonia:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I feel rather embarrassed to ask you this, as I am a coach myself. With all the work I’ve done on myself and all the work I do with my clients I am still single and even though I know WHY I am the way I am, and I know WHY I’m having a hard time creating my ideal love relationship, I can’t seem to do it.
What is the secret to removing limiting beliefs?"
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Hi Sonia,
Thank you for reaching out to us. There is no shame in asking a question and we’re thrilled that you asked us this one.
There are great coaches out there, and we have no doubt you do great work with your clients. We all have
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