This week's question comes from Shannon:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I have been working 7 days a week and have just taken the time to go through over 6000 emails. I read your Love Notes Weekly for this week and it stopped me in my tracks.
I am 47 and have been married for almost 6 years. (My 3rd marriage) I'm super embarrassed to tell you that my husband and I have not been intimate for almost 7 years. We live as roommates.
How do I "Be more kind with myself and love myself as I desire to receive love"?
Thank you in advance,
Shannon
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Dear Shannon,
Unfortunately, it sounds like you might be on your way to becoming part of a very
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Topic: Heal Your Heart
Should I Take Him Back?
This week's question comes from Missy:
Orna and Matthew,
I have been following you two for years, reading your newsletter and listening to your teleclasses and I find that I’m in the position to really need your help. I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years and about six months ago he left.
After all that we shared together, he broke up with me and I felt truly devastated. I am a successful woman with a great career, kids from a previous marriage, and a full life. I thought he was the guy… and then he broke my heart.
My question comes from the fact that now he’s back. He wants me back and I feel torn… do I take him back? How will I know he would never
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Should love feel exciting?
This week's question comes from Heather:
Dear Orna and Matthew,
You have talked about the subconscious seeking what is familiar whether good or bad...
I get that. What I don't understand is how that translates into something "EXCITING" ie : "This is familiar, this is familiar!" How is something familiar... exciting?
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Dear Heather,
Thank you for your question. We see how this can be confusing. The simple answer is that the only difference between fear and excitement is the inner dialog we are having about the experience. When we experience either fear or excitement, we have the same physical reaction. Our heart rate increases, our breath
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How do I overcome my unhappy childhood?
This week's question comes from Pauletta:
"Why is it harder for people who didn't feel love as children to feel love and trust as adults? Do they ever really overcome the whole thing? If so, what can they do or try to help overcome it?"
Dear Pauletta,
This is a very big question and is the basis for the work we do. It all comes from Your Love Imprint™ and how that affects your relationship choices. You didn't let us know if this question is about you in particular, but we're going to answer it as if it is about you.
When you were born, you had no blocks to love. A newborn baby is able to give and receive love freely without any conditions. But as you grew, you
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How do you tend to a two-year-old broken heart?
This week's dating question comes from Brandon:
Dear Orna and Matthew,
How do you tend to a two-year-old broken heart?
My fiancée and I ended a long-distance relationship just over two years ago. I understood her reasons behind wanting to end it, yet it still hurts in that in my highest hopes I had found the woman I'd spend the rest of my life with. Needless to say, in time, she has found someone else. I am very happy for her (and told her as such), yet there is still the pain of not being able to make the relationship work.
I know in time that I will feel better and know that someone will come along to allow me to move forward. In the meantime, the pain and
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How much space should I give him?
This week's question comes from Tiffany:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
First let me say I praise God for you both each day! I recently ended a relationship because it had been over, coincidentally I immediately got into another relationship with another man I care a great deal about. He also has just ended an abusive relationship (she was violent, I've seen this for myself). We have both become so connected but he's decided he must take some time to figure out what he wants. I believe that's true and fair, I'm giving him space. He still is very much intertwined with his ex and I am wondering if I should continue to hope, also should I completely not contact, allowing him to
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