This week's question comes from Patricia:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
Isn’t it more romantic when you meet someone out of the blue and sparks fly? The idea of doing all this work to find my soulmate sounds exhausting!
I would love to know what you have against romance.
Do you really believe that there’s any difference between falling in love and loving someone? If so, what is it?
Seriously confused.
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Hello Patricia,
Thanks for jumping in and giving us a challenge! We’ve heard this a lot and while Creating Love On Purpose® might sound unromantic, just the opposite is true.
Here’s what we know about the accidental, “Whoops! I slipped on a banana peel
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Lasting Love
Can I find lasting love at my age?
This week's question comes from Anonymous:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
First of all a big thank you for what you're doing! I have been following you for some time and you give the best straight-forward advice.
I have a few questions I've been wondering about.
First: I've been doing this work on my own about a year and have grown tremendously and I'm so glad I took this path. However I met somebody (lets say: "Z") last fall but found out that "Z" was taken (I then discovered that my attraction for unattainable people was just my own fear of physical intimacy and the possibility of rejection). I think I'm clear of what I want in love and in relationships. I do
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Meant to Be?
This week's question comes from Tarryn:
Dear Orna and Mathew.
I have a question if you don't mind. All these techniques, internal work, etc. are great and I truly follow it and try to practice this work. However if you're with the wrong partner (for instance if I'm with a boyfriend who isn't my match/soulmate) then I could do all the internal work in the world and we still wouldn't be able to have that soulmate/relationship we want correct?
It just frustrates me that this work is incredibly great but it really wouldn't make a difference if you're with the wrong person for you? Would love to hear your opinions. For instance, even if you would have done all this
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Is He My Soulmate?
This week's question comes from Eva:
Dear Orna and Matthew,
First off, I'd like to thank you for what you two do. Every single weekly newsletter I've read has enlightened me in a profound way.
These questions pertain to soul mates. I feel so blessed because I have met two so far in this life and we have learned a tremendous amount from each other already. I tried having a relationship with one of them twice and we realized we are in fact soul mates, but we are not destined to be lovers. We still have a very strong bond and nothing is awkward between us. He is a friend I know I will grow old with. It took a lot of time, but I am finally happy with the situation and
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When do you say no more?
This week's question comes from Tina:
Hello Orna and Matthew
I am in a 7-year relationship. When we met I was very busy with a new business and to be honest I was not attracted to him. He was persistent and so kind to me. Slowly his kindness started to allure me. The first time he held my hand I felt irritated then I felt I didn't really want him to let my hand go. My attraction to him grew in a way I was not familiar with. I so loved the way he adored me, and there was something I had never experienced, an aroma that I was so drawn to. I wanted to be so close to him.
This has been 7 years of pure confusion. Within a year the man that adored me, started
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Should I leave?
This week's question comes from Confused:
Hi Orna and Matthew, I have a question and would really appreciate some insight. I have been with my partner for three years now. During this time we have broken up a few times for up to 1 month. We were both miserable during the break ups and ended up talking about our issues and getting back together. BUT nothing really changes. We have the same issue again a few months later. My partner has been married before for 7 years and she left him. He is older than me at 39 and I am 31. The issue has always been around commitment. I know he loves me and he spends all of his free time with me. He is a great boyfriend in the sense
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