This week's question comes from Mindy:
Dear Orna and Matthew,
I really love the advice that you give and I think I’m stuck and I need your help. You always say that it’s important to select someone for a relationship that you share the same values with and I thought I did that, but it seems I didn’t.
I wrote out a list of the kind of guy I was looking for and within 2 weeks he showed up – even the kind of car that I had written down! It was like magic. Unfortunately, he seemed interested in me for a while, but his interest waned and now I find that I’m feeling anxious, and texting him all the time. Sometimes he’ll take a week to even get back to me.
So how do
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Lasting Love
What About The List?
This week's question comes from Beth:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
I have a question for you as I’m really starting to see things differently since I started listening to you talk about how to create love.
After my divorce I got really clear on the kind of person I wanted to be in relationship with, I made ‘The List.’ Soon after I met a man who was an exact fit to my list. He even drove the kind of car I had written down!
I was truly amazed that this seemed to work! Exactly the kind of man I described in my list was now in my life and pursuing me for a relationship. After 6 months he proposed and I said ‘Yes!’ I really thought I had things figured out.
During
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Do men have a Love Imprint™?
This week's question comes from Joy:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
I've been reading your weekly posts for years, and look forward to Monday to read them.
Today a thought occurred to me, how do men think? It seems the Love Imprint is around women's thought processes. Perhaps I feel this way because, for the most part women write to you, and the responses could be directed from the feminine side. Perhaps Mathew could share, what do men think? Do they also struggle with their past imprints as women?
For instance, when you said, "You are choosing to allow yourself to love men who reflect back to you the energetic dynamic of love that was present for you in your
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7 Years – No Itch!
Hello Love On Purpose Community!
Today is our 7-year wedding anniversary so we decided to mix things up and instead of answering one of your questions today, we decided to share our “secrets” with you.
Often times we are surprised to hear from our friends that they think our relationship is EASY! They want what we have…
The truth is that it was very easy in the beginning. We had both transformed our blocks to love, cultivated discernment through the dating process, and were on the search for an ideal match.
Every relationship needs the SPARK of attraction and that chemical high we call “The Romance Stage” in order to create longevity in relationship. It’s like
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Are you a coach? – This is for you!
This week's question comes from Sad and Single:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I’m kind of embarrassed to reach out to you two because I am a coach and should be a colleague and yet my secret is that I am not in a relationship…
I know what I’m looking for in a relationship, and even though I’m always helping my own clients call in the one I haven’t been able to do this for myself.
Whew! That was hard to type out… I guess I have a lot of shame because I really believe in the coaching I was trained in and I know it works… it’s worked for a lot of people, but so far, not me.
Can you help me? I feel like I’m really I’m running out of time and that I’m running out of
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Why do I have to change for love?
This week's question comes from Shellie:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I am so grateful for the two of you. I watch all your webinars and I read your newsletter weekly. You give a completely unique point of view about love and relationships that for me adds up to the best dating advice.
Here’s my question: Why do I have to be the one to change in order for love to come in?
Every week in your newsletter there’s a beautiful quote at the top that often says how we are born as love and that love is our birthright. So if that’s true, how come I have to do something differently for that love to show up for me?"
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Hi Shellie,
Thank you so much for your positive
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