This week's question comes from Anne:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I love your weekly emails!! I look forward to them every Monday.
I am in the early stages of a relationship (one month to be exact). I am practicing being the "receiver" and allowing him to do the pursuing. So far everything is going well. My question is this - with Christmas next week, what is the protocol for the woman in a new relationship? He has not invited me out yet to celebrate the holidays, but assuming he does, do you think it would be appropriate to give him a friendly card (not lovey-dovey) and maybe a small box of chocolates?
I tend to "over-give" in my relationships and am cognizant of not
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Lasting Love
How Do I Decide If He Is Right For Me?
This week's question comes from Lisa
"Dear Orna & Matthew,
A couple of years back, I attended one of your live workshops in Santa Monica (won the tickets!). At that time I had recently ended a relationship, and your workshop was very valuable and timely.
Since that time I met a wonderful man. It's now been 9 months, and some definite issues have come up, and I'm struggling to decide whether to continue.
This person has been wonderful to me, warm-hearted and generous, has shown concern for my well-being, wants to see me succeed at my new career path, wants me around him especially when he's with family and friends, has made me feel good about myself and
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How do I get him to commit?
This week's question comes from Angel
"Hi Orna & Matthew,
Really enjoying listening to the Love on Purpose Revolution. I would like your advice on something bugging me in my otherwise lovely relationship of one year and 7 months with my boyfriend.
Although he always tells me he loves me and does nice things for me and we spend weekends together and are very compatible. He never makes plans about a future together; he has some concerts and days out arranged for us, I have met his parents and grown up children and slowly introducing me to some of his friends - but we don't socialize with them, and there has been some opportunities to do so. His granddaughter
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My boyfriend smokes too much pot
This week's question comes from Terri:
"Hello Orna and Matthew,
I've been dating this guy for about 5 months and for the most part it has been really great. He's really sweet and we talk a lot and I'm really attracted to him. I want it to work out. It's just that he smokes a lot of pot and I don't. I've never really been into it. I don't even drink that much. One drink and I'm pretty much done for the night. He told me he's been smoking for years and it isn't a problem. He's got a great job and makes good money so it's not he's a useless stoner. But, he smokes pretty regularly - at least 5 to 6 times a week. I have asked him to quit numerous times, but he insists that
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What if I don’t really love him?
This week's question comes from Angie:
"Hi Orna and Matthew :)
Thank you for the work you're doing. Your Love Notes and your teachings resonate with me so much!!
My question is this - how can you tell the difference between your intuition saying "this isn't it" vs your heart just being closed off to love?
I've been dating my boyfriend now for about a year and a half. I love and care about this person, and he has become like a best friend to me, in that we share (almost) everything with each other, have many common values and interests, and almost every day spend time together. However, from the very first time he approached me, I heard what I think was my
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I’ve Done It All. Where Is My Soulmate?
This week's question comes from Cha Cha:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I've been reading and enjoying (!) Your "Love Notes Weekly" for a while now and it all sounds very clear and helpful...
So I wonder if you can help me out of a situation that is really really a paradox:
During the last 15 years I've tried nearly everything in terms of spiritual growth and healing (such as family "settings", ordering from the universe, ho'oponopono, Reiki, shamanic sessions, Psychology of Vision, a Course in Miracles, PSYCH-K, bodywork, radical manifestation, feel better program, ...) in order to find my soulmate and my purpose/calling.
And this is what happened: the surface of
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