Do you ever worry and wonder if you are emotionally unavailable for love? Even if Mr. Perfect walked into your life tomorrow would you be able to make it last?
Long-lasting love requires more than just attraction and desire. Intimate relationships are nourished by emotional intimacy. If you are unable to comfortably share your emotions, navigate conflicts, and take responsibility, then you will have trouble creating and maintaining a healthy connection with your partner.
Do you use sarcasm to protect yourself? Do you find it difficult to trust others with your innermost thoughts and feelings? Do you confuse physical intimacy with emotional intimacy?
These are all
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Lasting Love
25 Limiting Beliefs That Interfere With Finding True Love (Plus How To Turn Them Around)
Dating is hard. Love doesn’t last. True love is just a fantasy. Whatever your limiting beliefs about love and relationship are, they are interfering in your search for lasting love.
Your limiting beliefs get in the way of you staying positive and motivated about love and dating. They cause you to take self-sabotaging actions and to work against yourself. Ultimately, they leave you feeling hopeless and frustrated about the possibility of ever finding “The One.”
The truth about love is that it is always available to you. Love can be easy while at the same time requiring effort to make it last. Creating lasting love with your soulmate can be one of the most satisfying
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When Someone Asks ‘Are We Compatible’ Is It A Sign The Relationship Is Going Someplace Or Headed For A Breakup?
This week's question comes from Lacie:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
When someone asks, “Are we compatible?” is it a sign the relationship is going someplace or headed for a breakup?
I’m dating this guy and I don’t know how I feel about him. He’s really nice and we get along well, but I’m not feeling the excitement that I want to feel. He seems obsessed with our compatibility. He keeps going on about how much alike we are.
I don’t know what to think. How do I know if this relationship is going someplace or if we are headed for a breakup?
I look forward to your advice."
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Dear Lacie,
Thanks for reaching out to us. We understand that you are confused about
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How Long Does It Take To Fall In Love For Real?
This week's question comes from Isabel:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
How long does it take to fall in love for real? I’m confused and I hope you can help me!
My boyfriend of 3 months keeps telling me that he is so in love with me. He’s always saying how much he loves me. I’m not sure I’ve had enough time to know how I feel about him. I’m afraid he is hurt by my not telling him yet and I don’t want him to go find someone else. I think I just need more time to know for sure before I say the L-word.
He’s a great guy and I find him attractive. We met online and he pursued me right away. I just don’t know if he’s the one. Should I know right away?
I’m so confused.
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No Chemistry? How Long Should You Wait For Attraction?
This week's question comes from Julia:
“Hi Orna and Matthew,
Question: If I have no chemistry with a guy I’ve met, how long do I wait to see if attraction develops between us?
I have met a very nice man. We share some of the same hobbies, like books and music. He is retired and has tons of time; I work full time and also have a photography business and am very busy with limited time. This is sometimes a problem, but my real question is about sexual attraction. How soon do you think you know?
I thought we had some chemistry but now I’m not so sure (at least on my part). He says he is attracted to me, but I am having trouble recognizing his cues. He is a very
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When A Man Falls In Love He Shows His True Feelings In These 11 Ways
When a man falls in love with you it won’t be a mystery. He will show his feelings to you in very specific ways. And you won’t have to be a mind reader if you pay attention to his not so subtle way of falling for you.
How many times have you met a great guy and it doesn’t go anywhere? He’s attractive and the two of you have a lot in common and you start to hope you’ll be a match, but then the relationship never goes anywhere. He doesn’t reach out or text you, but responds to you when you reach out. The relationship runs hot-cold until eventually it just fizzles out, and you find yourself single, heartbroken, and confused, yet again.
Do you find yourself constantly
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