This week's question comes from Jody:
“Dear Orna and Matthew,
What should I look for in a true soul partner?
I’ve been around the block a few times, still single over 50 and never married. I’ve been engaged and I tried to make that work out but it didn’t and when/if I ever do get married I want to do that only once.
I do want to share my life with someone and I think I know what I want, but maybe my focus is on the wrong things. You two are a shining example of what I desire. The love between you two is so strong and palpable. When I see how you look at one another I want that… I want someone to look at me like that even after a decade together. So please let me
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Lasting Love
Why Are Soulmate Relationships So Intense?
Why are soulmate relationships so intense? Thanks to how Elizabeth Gilbert described soulmates in her mega-bestseller “Eat, Pray, Love,” a lot of people are afraid to meet their soulmate.
In her description “A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you and then leave.”
Ms. Gilbert got it wrong. Many people show up in your life to teach you and guide you to grow, but a soulmate is the one who sticks around for a lifetime through the good and bad
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How important is chemistry between two people for lasting love?
This week's question comes from Bianca:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I have a question about the importance of chemistry between two people.
I’ve been dating this guy for about 4 months and he is unlike any of the men I’ve dated in the past. He is kind, thoughtful, and he seems to really like me. He says he wants to be with me and I believe him.
After reading a bunch of books and listening to webinars I know that how the guy treats me is the thing to pay attention to.
It’s clear to me that this man is a good and kind man. His behavior shows me that I am a priority for him.
I want to know if you think that is enough?
I’ve made mistakes choosing guys I had a lot
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Understanding How A Man Thinks Can Make Or Break Your Relationship
Understanding how a man thinks is the key to knowing if he is ready to take the next step with you, or if it’s time to move along. It’s important to evaluate his behavior to see if the two of you are on the same page. When you understand how a man thinks, you’ll never have to ask him, “Where is this going?”
Don't date backwards by giving the benefit of the doubt to a stranger on a date. Just because you have chemistry doesn’t mean you two have the same values. A man has to earn the benefit of the doubt with you first.
Understanding how a man thinks about dating and mating assists with your being discerning through the dating process ultimately so you can select an
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Can A Soulmate Be A Twin Flame?
This week's question comes from Marissa:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I’m confused about the differences between a soulmate and a twin flame. Can a soulmate be a twin flame? I’ve read that your twin flame is someone that you have a soul connection with. Isn’t that also a soulmate?
Aren’t twin flame relationships supposed to be healing but difficult? What about a soulmate?
I really want to find that special kind of relationship. I meet a lot of guys who are nice and seem like good men, but I don’t feel that spark of recognition that everyone describes.
I’ve had relationships but none of them felt super fulfilling, I guess I was lukewarm about them. How can I know if
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Why Do Men Have Blind Spots For A Woman When They’re In Love, But Otherwise Want A Perfect Woman?
This week's question comes from Anita:
“Hi Orna and Matthew,
Why do men have blind spots for a woman when they’re in love, but otherwise want a perfect woman? I met a great man and for the first few months everything was great. He was so romantic and always gave me compliments on my appearance. He seemed to love and accept me.
But then we moved in together and everything changed. He is so critical of how I do everything. I don’t do the dishes correctly. I don’t dress nice enough for him. It seems like I can’t do anything right anymore.
Please help me! I love him so much and I want things to go back to the way they were. I almost wish I hadn’t moved in with
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